What’s the best way for a man to turn down a female member with a B/C dating type?
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She’s cute, works for a reputable company, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with her. However, I’m not looking for a deeper relationship. That’s simply a matter of personal preference, so it can’t be helped.
We’ve only met for meals and then gone our separate ways, but she has invited me on a daytime date, saying she’d like us to get a little closer next time.
Is there a way to turn her down without hurting her feelings?
I wouldn’t mind staying friends and just going out for meals, but considering the purpose of this club’s B/C dating type, I feel I should decline.
👤Asked byGuest👨GenderMale🎂40s👑Universe male member
Good morning.
I wasn’t able to understand what you were asking at all, but if I summarize all your questions, including this one, is this what you mean?
- You’re offering terms B and C.
- Since you want an intimate relationship, you don’t want to offer term A.
- A woman has invited you to an adult relationship (intimate), but you want to turn her down.
- Even when a woman invites you to an adult relationship (intimate), you want to choose because there are women you’d want to be intimate with and women you wouldn’t.
- Is there a way to turn someone down without offending her?
- Since you’re asking women, you’d prefer men not to respond.
Is that correct?
For anyone you don’t plan to see again, just say goodbye via LINE. Then keep making new offers until you find your ideal woman.
Other than that, I think you should try to work on being a little less self-centered. Your writing is also difficult to understand. I saw your deleted post too, and honestly, it was frightening.
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Some men write profiles that are practically three smartphone screens long, so why not put it there?
That way, they’ll know you’re the male version of B—and one who still can’t make up his mind even after the second meeting—which is probably a good thing.
Anyone who doesn’t like that can turn you down when they make the offer, so you won’t waste the offer fee either.
As for the woman in this question, you’ve already decided that you want to turn her down, so I think you can simply decline or not schedule another meeting.
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How about saying something like:
“I’m looking for more of a dinner-focused relationship through the dating club rather than an adult relationship (intimate). I’d like to pay you an allowance that helps support your lifestyle, so if you’re comfortable with that, would you be interested in seeing me?”
You may also get a sense of how she thinks based on the amount she asks for dinner only (no intimacy).
If the allowance doesn’t match what you have in mind, you can simply part ways.
追加: I also read the question that was added later. In response to her messages, I think it would be fine to say, “Work has been really busy, and I haven’t been able to make time to see women for a while.”
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I’m a Type B in terms of relationship style, but I do have someone I only meet for meals.
The man told me:
“I enjoy talking with you and would like to keep going out for meals, but I can’t have an intimate relationship. Would you still be willing to meet just for meals?”
When he first said that, I felt sad and wondered if he was turning me down or simply didn’t like me.
However, after hearing his circumstances, I understood. So wouldn’t it be more reassuring for both sides if you told the woman from the beginning? If she’s satisfied with your allowance, or if she also wants that kind of arrangement, I think she’ll continue meeting you.
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So you meant cases where you want an adult relationship, but after meeting her, the man wants to turn her down? Your question is hard to understand. Also, although your posts keep getting deleted, you’re being persistent.
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It’s really simple—so simple even a monkey or Nobita could understand. Instead of turning her down, just give her 50,000 or 100,000 yen for dinner.
Women in the B–D categories think in terms of an hourly rate. That’s only natural in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). On the other hand, you want to date her but don’t want an adult relationship (intimate). To match both sides’ needs, either increase the allowance for a dinner date, or, if you can’t, end things—that’s your only option. It’s unfair to the woman; she’s there to earn money, after all.
If you want inexpensive dinner dates, make offers to women in the A category.
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I gathered that you’re not into deeper relationships, so why did you make her an offer in the first place?
From now on, please make it clear when you’re offering that you’re an A-type man!
Either way, I feel sorry for her…
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