Do the men you date through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) look like the people you date romantically in real life? My papas all look kind and cuddly, like the bears in Irasutoya illustrations. They all have diabetes or have been warned by their doctors that they’re at risk. The guys I date or find attractive around my age are all tall, slim, and into sports, so they look completely different from my papas. If a man who looked like my boyfriend showed up for papa-katsu, I’d probably find it awkward—or rather, I don’t think he’d be suitable as a papa-katsu partner. Once, a tall, muscular man who went to the gym constantly came to meet me through the club, and I got intimidated. We didn’t end up dating.
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When I listen to my papas talk, they often say things like, “When I was around 20, I wanted to date a girl like you.”
Actually, I think I might prefer men who look like my papas, and I’m starting to wonder if I’ll end up marrying someone with that kind of appearance.
How about everyone else?
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It’s funny that every single one of them inviting you turns out to have diabetes or be prediabetic.
Maybe there’s something about you that attracts that kind of man?
For the record, I’m slim and have never been told I’m prediabetic, but lately I’ve been concerned about my blood sugar spiking after meals.
Well, once men reach their 40s or 50s, it’s not unusual for health problems to start showing up, even if they look good.
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There isn’t really that big a difference between a real boyfriend and a papa.
I’m not into overweight men or guys who are very pale and soft-looking, so I tend to date men who have more of an athletic, sports-club type of build.
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Just like the saying “Beauty and the Beast” suggests:
Men seek visual stimulation during sex, while women close their eyes and lose themselves in the moment.
Men usually start with looks, but that isn’t always the case for women.
A woman may even fall in love with and marry someone who made an impossible first impression.
More than men, women are simply impossible to figure out when it comes to what kind of looks they’ll fall for or who they’ll marry.
And the more beautiful a woman is, the more her “beauty genes” are already fulfilled, so she tends to be drawn to other qualities—like genes she can respect.
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The people I’ve dated and my papas haven’t looked alike at all.
Personality-wise, though, they may have had some similarities, like being kind and easygoing.
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My stomach hurts lol
> I once met a guy at the club who was tall, went to the gym all the time, and was seriously ripped,
> and I got intimidated.
> It didn’t lead to an arrangement.
Just to be clear, I’m short, fat, and bald (a nostalgic term), and I’ve never been turned down for an arrangement in person, so it wasn’t me m(_ _)m
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In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), men generally make the offers, so I doubt the papa is necessarily the questioner’s type.
I’ve never really heard anyone say they’re seeing a papa because they like his looks. I have heard of someone agreeing to an adult relationship (intimate) at a dating club for the first time because the man was relatively young and not bad-looking.
But I’ve heard “muscle hypertrophy is gross” far more often than either of those.
So I think the questioner’s feelings are probably pretty common.
I’ve also occasionally heard people say they regret getting married mainly because they were attracted to their partner’s looks. In most cases, I think people get married for reasons like “it just happened” or “they had a good income and personality.”
So there’s probably no need to worry that you’ll end up marrying someone who’s like a papa (a male supporter).
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