Today, I turned down a man I had a first meeting with because he had absolutely no sense of cleanliness. If I report this to Universe, will I be treated like a complainer?
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For some reason, my post was deleted, so I’m reposting it.
To be specific about his lack of cleanliness:
・His upper front teeth were black, and two or three of his lower teeth were missing. His breath smelled rotten.
・A large amount of nose hair, more than 1 cm long, was sticking out of his nose.
That’s what I mean.
I’m a Type C, so he asked about going to a hotel afterward, but I politely declined, saying that an urgent work matter had come up.
Right after we parted, I sent him a thank-you message saying:
・I was sorry that sudden work had come up
・I was happy to have met him
・I’d be happy to see him again
I’d like to quietly fade out from here without making him feel bad—for example, if he suggests another date, I’ll turn him down by saying I have work.
Thankfully, I’ve never received a complaint from a man before.
(I only found out because one of my monthly supporters showed me my profile page.)
So I’d like to keep my no-complaint record going, but I’m worried about:
・How shocking this particular man’s appearance was
・Whether he might report things that aren’t true out of spite for being turned down
For my own protection, I’m thinking of reporting this to Universe.
However, he probably didn’t mean any harm, and since I was simply uncomfortable when I met him, Universe might decide that there was no actual harm done.
If I do report it, how should I explain the situation?
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Enough already.
It’s time to move on from spamming the Q&A box.
It’s getting exhausting just reading this stuff—please leave already.
You should assume that anything you write will be deleted. You’re already just being a complainer…
> Wouldn’t the right response to this person be not to respond at all?
I agree. Even if someone does answer, I think it’s fine to hide it immediately.
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Thanks to all the men who offer low allowances or lack basic cleanliness, I get highly rated at dating clubs, men’s esthetics salons, lounges, hair salons, and other places without even doing anything. It’s a huge help.
- Within 30 minutes before a date, I always brush my teeth, floss, use an interdental brush and mouthwash, and clean my tongue. I also visit a bad-breath clinic regularly.
- Full-body hair removal and spot removal
- Tuck in my stomach and work out
- Keep my hair neatly styled
- Have my toenails groomed at the nail salon too
- Find a fragrance that suits me and apply it lightly
Sometimes I think male members who don’t do these things shouldn’t qualify for Black membership. Alternatively, the club could conduct physical screenings and create something like a Diamond class.
The more you study scent in particular, the more interesting it gets—and your appeal really does increase. I almost wish Universe would even run a “scent project.”
“An older guy’s efforts to look his best”
are genuinely fun, though. I honestly can’t understand why more people don’t realize how enjoyable it is.
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Thank you as always.
That person must be “Daddy of the Bakabon family.” No doubt about it. I actually measured it, and having a full centimeter of nose hair sticking out is beyond unusual. Those features are a perfect match for Daddy of the Bakabon family—my inner Milk Boy comedian is declaring it with absolute certainty, square head and all.
As for your feedback to the club, I think you should keep it matter-of-fact. Stick to the facts without exaggerating. Also, turning him down by using work as an excuse was a smooth move, but why lie afterward by saying things like, “I’d be happy to see you again”? Just thank him and give your feedback. Then you could end things neatly as a one-time encounter. Lying and giving someone false hope, only to waste their time, is taking things too far. That puts you in the company of the bad guys.
“Lacking cleanliness” and “smelling bad” are entirely subjective, after all. You’re free to feel however you want, but assuming that everyone else sees things the same way you do is arrogant. And it’s also wrong to conclude that someone is a bad person just because they lack a sense of cleanliness. There are kind-hearted homeless people too. It’s all based on your narrow-minded assumptions. Daddy of the Bakabon family has a beautiful wife, you know.
One last thing.
The character 「庶」 in the word for “common people” looks like Daddy of the Bakabon family, doesn’t it? That isn’t subjective—it’s common knowledge! ♪
Taro
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Hmm, I already consider the person asking this question to be either a chronic complainer or a troll on the Q&A site.
If they report it, we might be able to figure out who they are.
That said, I have a feeling they’re actually a man—
(or perhaps a woman who was rejected at the interview and couldn’t become a member?)
So I wonder if they’re even able to report it.
If they don’t report it, that confirms they’re a man.
If they do, we can identify which member they are.
Something like that, I suppose.
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The papa involved might speak badly about you, so shouldn’t you make sure to explain your side as well? Posting about it anonymously here is just venting, so I think you should properly report it to the club.
“Somehow it got deleted,” huh? (lol) By now, you’ve probably realized why your questions keep getting deleted. If this feels suffocating, maybe it’s time to stop asking questions. It reminds me of the fable about the boy who cried wolf.
Is he really a papa from the club? Not someone from an app or Twitter? If this isn’t something you made up, you should report it to the club. As long as you explain everything properly and politely, you won’t be seen as a difficult customer.
I’ve also reported someone to the club before, saying things like, “His odor down there was too strong for me to handle.”
One of the good things about this club is that you can say no if you’re uncomfortable, and women have the right to choose.
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I think it was hidden because the previous question included too many unnecessary details, making it seem as though the post’s main purpose wasn’t actually to ask a question.
First of all, you can’t tell whether there have been any complaints from men just by looking at a woman’s profile. So there’s no way to know whether she has a clean record.
As for how to turn someone down, everyone has their own opinions, so I’ll refrain from commenting.
Regarding your question, “How should I report it?”—if you absolutely want to file a report, I think simply saying, “I turned him down because he lacked basic cleanliness and grooming” would be fine.
You probably wouldn’t be treated as a complainer if you simply reported that you turned him down because he had no sense of cleanliness. However, depending on how you phrase it, you may come across as someone who feels the need to add unnecessary details. For example, I thought the specific description of his lack of cleanliness in the question was unnecessary.
There’s no need for Universe to sympathize with the fact that you felt uncomfortable meeting him.
Whether her dating type was C or D, a woman has the right to refuse an arrangement she doesn’t want. You simply exercised that right, didn’t you? That’s perfectly normal.
Acting pleasant toward the man while making a report like that to the club seems almost like introducing yourself by saying, “I’m a two-faced woman.”
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If you’re going to report it, I think the first thing to mention would be that there was a man who showed you another member’s profile page. He probably doesn’t even know his own membership tier, so showing a female member’s page to someone else seems inappropriate…
It’s not really a complaint, so I think you should simply report what happened as it was.
As for this particular person, you said he lacked basic cleanliness, but if you’ve already decided not to see him again, isn’t it fine to leave things as they are? If you managed to get through the first meeting smoothly, you probably won’t receive any complaints either.
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