Are people who make same-day offers satisfied if they can just hook up once?
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I occasionally receive same-day offers, but I often can’t accept them because it’s difficult to rearrange my work schedule. Even when I repeatedly suggest other dates, every opportunity ends up falling through.
Is it fair to assume that people who make same-day offers and aren’t available on any other dates are looking for someone they can definitely meet that day, and aren’t really seeking a long-term arrangement?
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Sorry, but if I’m being completely blunt, my guess is:
The woman he had planned to make an offer to canceled at the last minute. Since he’d already booked the restaurant and a room, he reached out to women one after another.
You were probably his second choice or lower—maybe his third or fourth. That’s why, even after you suggested another date, he never followed up with another offer.
Or perhaps he decided to continue seeing the woman who was available that day, so he no longer needed to arrange another date with you.
That’s just my guess, though…
Try to forget about it and wait for the next offer.
Men who use this service for just one encounter are probably extremely wealthy. Unless they continue seeing someone, it isn’t cost-effective, so I don’t think there are many one-time-only guys.
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I’m only speculating as a column writer, but perhaps these are men who feel the strongest spark on the very first day they meet someone.
And perhaps many men are sizing you up as someone they’d want to be intimate with on the first day, but not enough to make the effort to arrange another meeting afterward.
Don’t the men who made you offers back then ever come back to see you? I feel that men who want to get intimate right away are surprisingly likely to become kinder toward the person afterward.
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It depends on the person and the circumstances. Asking third parties here won’t tell you the answer.
Personally, if I were only looking for a one-time experience, I wouldn’t go through the trouble of making an offer via a dating club. It would be easier to just go to a soapland.
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Even with a same-day offer, there are cases where the woman who was originally scheduled cancels at the last minute, and the club then has to hurriedly look for someone else.
In these situations, the man may have rearranged his work schedule and made time for the date, or even booked a restaurant, so it’s a problem when the plans suddenly disappear.
Usually, the woman’s last-minute cancellation leaves the staff apologizing to the man and trying to find another woman.
So even if they suggest another date, the arrangement will only be made with women who are available on that day.
(The discussion about a different date basically goes away.)
That said, if they meet and hit it off, they may continue seeing each other afterward, so I feel it’s not necessarily just about finding someone for that particular day.
However, since she isn’t the woman he originally made the offer to, I imagine the chances of him liking her may be lower.
Of course, this isn’t limited to same-day arrangements. Apparently, there are men who simply want to find someone they can meet that day. When I was talking with another staff member recently, they mentioned that men like that—men looking for someone to meet that very day—seem to be increasing lately.
I can’t help wondering whether, because Universe has such a wide-open entry point, all kinds of people end up joining.
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For a same-day offer, you tell the staff your preferred age and general look—hair length, color, and so on—and they find someone for you.
In other words, I feel like they’ll send whichever woman is available.
There are usually several candidates, so I don’t think you need to worry too much.
It’s simply whoever happens to be free that day…
The club might disagree if I say this, but it happened to me once too. When I asked the staff about it, they said, “If the schedules don’t work out, never mind then.” (laughs)
—Nana Ayase ♡
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I once made a same-day offer to a woman, but we couldn’t meet at all. More than six months later, I reached out again, and we ended up in a monthly arrangement. We’re still seeing each other and getting along well.
Even if it starts as a one-time offer, things can continue if you click. On the other hand, you may meet someone hoping for a long-term arrangement, only to find you’re not a great match and have it end after that one meeting. It happens all the time.
Don’t overthink it—let’s enjoy papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with a positive attitude♪
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I’ve never made a same-day offer, but I think of it as similar to using a pinch hitter in baseball.
It’s probably best to assume that, before making the same-day offer, they already tried asking several other people and got nowhere.
Also, if they suggest another date, it likely means they already have someone else lined up for that day. Unless you have a lot of free time, you probably won’t be able to agree to it.
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I’ve never made a same-day offer, so I can’t say for sure, but…
He’s probably looking for a woman he can see whenever he feels like it—a convenient arrangement for when he suddenly needs someone.
I don’t think that necessarily means he’s not looking for a long-term relationship.
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