I’m currently seeing a man from Universe. At his request, we had been intimate without using protection. I sensed that he was also seeing other women, but I put up with it for a while.
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Even after several months, nothing had changed regarding his seeing multiple women. I became unable to ignore my fears about infections and pregnancy, so I told him I wanted us to use protection. However, he said he couldn’t consider continuing to see me if we used protection.
According to him, the other women wanted to use protection, so he did use it with them.
I fully understand that I’m also at fault for allowing us not to use protection in the first place.
If he still won’t use protection, I think I should end things, but I still love him and can’t bring myself to make that decision.
If I allowed things to be unprotected at first, is it natural for a man to want to look for someone else rather than start using protection partway through?
Does the fact that he says he can’t consider continuing to see me if we use protection mean that, to him, I was only worth that much after all (T_T)?
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I have several monthly partners who say things like, “Are we really that casual?” or “Don’t you trust me?” when I try to use protection, and they get suspicious if I don’t finish inside…
They tell me, “I’m on the pill, so it’s fine,” and when I smoothly put on a condom and start, they say, “It doesn’t feel good,” take it off, and I end up finishing inside every time. I’m absolutely terrified, and I feel relieved every time they tell me their period has come.
On the other hand, I started seeing a sexy actress last month, and she’s genuinely responsible in both her attitude and actions regarding contraception and STIs, so I feel completely at ease with her. She’s great in bed, and her oral skills are on par with an ideal professional—honestly, I couldn’t ask for more.
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> He says he can’t continue seeing me if we use protection.
You’re clearly important to him, so I imagine you want to do whatever you can to keep the relationship going. But I don’t think there’s any love involved.
Falling for someone like that may be unfortunate in a way, but since he’s taken this position, I think it would be reasonable for you to negotiate a higher allowance. Even if you stay in the relationship, I’d suggest telling him you want at least double what you’re receiving now.
If he still says he can’t continue seeing you even with a higher allowance, that may actually make it easier for you to move on.
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“If you’re going to use contraception, can we really be together?”
Isn’t everything clear from that one sentence?
Unless you’re engaged, who says something like that in a relationship through a dating club? He’s completely lost it, and are you really willing to accept being treated that way?
There’s no way a man like this will truly value you, and I don’t think he has any intention of doing so.
Akari
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My first thought was that “I haven’t been intimate without protection with any other women” is probably a lie.
You’ve fallen for him, but he does have other women he’s seeing, right? It feels somewhat similar to falling for a host…
You want to believe you’re more special to him than the other women, but if you keep seeing him without protection and let things drag on, you might end up getting hurt… (>_<)
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It’s the same with romance: whoever falls harder is the one who loses.
The sad part is that when you’re in that situation, you can’t calmly assess where you stand.
Still, you’ll cool off after a while.
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That’s right. Unfortunately…
If I like her, there’s no reason for me to refuse using a condom, even if she says that—at least when it’s a relationship through the club.
That said, from the man’s perspective, having a relationship where you can go without a condom is something special. But that only applies to relationships outside the club… (Among club arrangements, it’s normal not to want to do it without protection.)
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“If using contraception means he can’t continue seeing me, then I guess I didn’t mean that much to him after all, right? (T_T)”
I think that’s exactly what it means.
Make your decision!
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He probably likes you because you let him go without a condom.
If he won’t wear one even when you ask him to, and you can’t accept that, then it’s time to part ways.
Marika
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Unfortunately, that’s probably the extent of his feelings…
If he truly cared about you, he would prioritize your well-being over his own desires and wouldn’t make you feel anxious.
Having an intimate relationship without contraception means constantly worrying about pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections, which I imagine is incredibly distressing for a woman.
I would never want to date a man who would put me through that.
No one else can protect your body for you—you have to protect it yourself.
Even if you love him, what he loves is having a woman who will let him have sex without protection.
Your body is precious, so please put yourself first.
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If he truly likes you and doesn’t want to lose you, he should be willing to use a condom.
Once you’ve really grown close, it’s not just about whether you use one or not. He may also suggest dates like, “How about we just have dinner today?” and avoid pushing things when you’re on your period. I think it becomes a relationship where the man genuinely prioritizes the woman’s well-being.
That’s how all my good papas (male supporters) were.
For now, it seems that being able to have sex without a condom is more important to him than having an emotional connection with you…
I don’t think he sounds like a very good person. I shouldn’t say this too loudly, but part of me thinks, “Maybe you need to get an STI once and learn how important condoms are.”
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