A question about allowances.

They’re basically forcing women who are attending their first dating-club interview and have no idea how anything works to answer: “How much would you like to receive per month?” Most of them initially say, “I’m not really sure,” and then the staff coax them into giving an answer anyway. It’s similar to asking a new graduate, “How much would you like to earn?” They just give an arbitrary answer like 200,000 yen. Someone who says 200,000 yen probably feels that it’s about the same as their take-home pay from a regular job. But I don’t think that number necessarily reflects how much they actually want. For example, if you went to an interview for a host-club job and were asked, “How much would you like to aim for per month?” what would you say? 10 million yen? They’d probably laugh at you. 100,000 yen? Wouldn’t they think you lacked motivation? It’s a very strange question, because it’s hard to know what answer would satisfy the interviewer. Of course, women who already have several papas through apps may have some idea of what they should say in that situation. But I think it’s important to understand that most people are answering without really knowing what they’re talking about. > If it’s pay-per-meeting, how much should I ask for in the case of 200,000 yen per month? What about 300,000 yen? Rather than focusing on those numbers, I think it’s better to ask the other person how much they have in mind. The figures of 200,000 or 300,000 yen are pretty arbitrary, but most women do have at least some idea of how much they’d like to receive per meeting. Usually, they’re probably thinking, “Of course it would be nice to get a lot, but reality isn’t that easy.” That’s why men who offer more are regarded highly and given higher priority. Even if they’re somewhat demanding, the woman may still want to see them again. (That said, some men are unpleasant regardless of how much they pay, so you do need to be careful.)

As Kazu said, it’s hard to know what amount a woman might want for a pay-per-meeting arrangement. It varies from woman to woman, and unfortunately, some women may even change their expectations depending on the man they’re seeing.

The woman I’m currently closest to wanted a monthly allowance of ¥1 million. I’ve come to realize that when you’re truly compatible, the amount no longer matters.

That would be your monthly target amount. Also, I don’t think you can work out your pay-per-meeting expectations from that.

It’s probably the total monthly target. Even at ¥500,000, it could mean ¥30,000 per pay-per-meeting arrangement, or it could be closer to an A-type arrangement. Based on my experience, for profiles mentioning around ¥500,000 or less, ¥30,000–¥50,000 per meeting should be fine. If that’s not realistic, you can usually get a rough idea from the staff’s comments. There are also cases where women say that amount because staff told them they should quote a higher figure (at least according to them—who knows what the reality is?). So it’s not all that useful as a reference. For most women, I get the impression they simply write those comments on the spot without thinking too deeply about them. For men, quoting a high amount can have the advantage of attracting fewer offers and facing less competition. Most men seem to avoid making offers based on those comments. So, in reality, they may actually be worth considering.

I think that’s probably her monthly target. Most women wouldn’t expect ¥200,000 or ¥300,000 in a single meeting.

A monthly target amount? I’ve never even thought about that!! I think the best thing to do is ask the woman directly. That said, if her monthly target is ¥200,000 and she receives ¥200,000 per pay-per-meeting date, then meeting once a month would meet her goal. I’d be grateful for that. She’d probably be happy and appreciative too. But I’m not sure whether that would really be a comfortable arrangement for both of you.