After parting ways with a man I’d met twice through a dating app, I messaged him a few days later saying, “Let’s grab dinner again sometime when you’re free.” He left me on read for two weeks, and then just now messaged, “When should we make it? ^ ^”
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Doesn’t this mean he’s not really interested?
What do you think it means that he ignored me for two weeks and is only contacting me now?
He’s just treating me as someone convenient, right?
If he had no interest, he wouldn’t contact you, so doesn’t that mean there’s still a chance?
It’s not like you’re dating, and you haven’t made any papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangements either.
Whether two weeks feels like a long time or a short time depends on the person.
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Maybe he only reaches out when he feels like meeting for tea, and is otherwise busy with his personal life? ( ˙꒳˙ )???
Don’t overthink it—since it’s just an app, you should take it a little more casually♪
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I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is about both people looking for someone who fits their needs. So there’s no need to worry about being treated for convenience.
In papa-katsu, I believe it’s possible to be treated conveniently while still being treated well.
As for hearing from him after two weeks, just as Seattle-san said, your turn probably came up. And regarding whether he’s interested, I agree with Marika-san: if he reached out, there’s probably some interest.
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I agree with Marika as well.
If they’re only treating you in a way that’s convenient for them, I think you should do the same. If you want to treat them well, then do that.
By the way, whether you met through a club or an app, if you’re the one inviting them to meet again, it may go more smoothly if you also say something like, “If it’s soon, I’m available on [date] or [date].”
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Since they reached out to you, you can’t really say they’re not interested—though whether they’re a good person is another matter.
If you can both be useful to each other, that’s really all there is to it, I think.
Marika
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Since it’s an app with lots of women on it, I figured I was probably around 25th in line and that he reached out to me because he couldn’t meet the other 24.
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