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May 19, 2022 23:31
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I’m going to spend one night at a hot-spring resort for the first time with my papa (a male supporter), whom I usually only meet for dinner and a hotel stay.
He originally invited me to a members-only resort hotel in Tokyo, but it’s another papa’s regular place, and I felt the staff might recognize me there. So I suggested going to a hotel at a hot-spring destination from the same chain instead.
I said, “That place in Tokyo sounds nice too, but I’ve always wanted to stay at the ○○ Hotel at this hot-spring resort!”—and it worked out.
I genuinely did want to stay at the ○○, so I was able to steer things in that direction very naturally. Plus, I avoided the risk of running into another papa in Tokyo, so I’m glad it worked out.
You should also subtly steer your papa in the right direction, keep him happy, and have him take you on trips and things like that.
Marika
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I mostly go on dates that feel like they’re between a regular couple—shopping, taking day trips to sightsee, or having meals at restaurants. I’m sure you’d like that kind of dating too.
Why not casually suggest different date ideas to your papa (a male supporter) from time to time and see how he reacts? I also feel that having only a physical relationship would be sad. Try asking what your papa enjoys, and hopefully you can find things to have fun doing together. If I were you, I’d write something in my profile like, “I’d also like to try dates such as …”
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It usually ends with an adult relationship (intimate) or without intimacy after things like a meal, café, shopping, a drive, a walk, or a trip.
As for which combination is most common, it’s meals and an adult relationship (intimate). I’ve never had an arrangement that was intimacy only.
I don’t know whether your papa (a male supporter) sees you as a sexual outlet, but even among people my age, some go on home dates unusually often. Maybe your papa is just a homebody, too.
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Most of my dates are basically just eating and sleeping. When it’s only about satisfying sexual needs—or, for women, only about the money—somehow the meals tend to disappear.
I’d be happy to travel or go somewhere far away with someone I enjoy spending time with, but I don’t feel the need to force it. I think there’s a certain comfortable distance that depends on the person.
If that doesn’t align with what you’re looking for, I think it’s best to talk it over. But in the end, you’ll probably conclude that it’s better to look for someone else.
Taro
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We often go for spa treatments and movies together.
When it comes to trips, I’m open to going if he invites me. The allowance is a little higher on a pay-per-meeting basis.
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I don’t think they see you that negatively, but there may be some reason they can’t travel—maybe their wife is strict and won’t allow overnight trips, or they don’t have the money.
In my case, it depends on the papa. Some of them love traveling, while others can’t stay overnight. The ones who can’t seem to be under pretty intense surveillance—or rather, control—from their wives. One of them nearly got caught once and it turned into a huge ordeal, so he seems to be extremely careful now. Well, it can’t really be helped.
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Doing the same thing over and over gets boring. I doubt your papa (a male supporter) sees you as nothing more than a “tool for sexual release,” but if that’s how you feel, then it’s certainly a reality between the two of you. So, what should you do?!
Just because you go on a trip together doesn’t mean something good will necessarily come of it. If you already feel like a “tool for sexual release,” traveling together may only make you feel that way even more. I wouldn’t recommend it.
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Maybe he has circumstances that make traveling or going far away difficult, or perhaps going out simply isn’t his thing. Saying, “In the end, I’m just a tool for sexual release,” seems overly cynical to me.
I usually go from dinner to a hotel, but if a woman invites me on a trip, I sometimes go. I don’t invite them myself because I don’t know whether they actually want to go.
Come to think of it, the other day a woman invited me on a trip, saying that she didn’t need an allowance if I would cover the travel expenses. People really do think differently.
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We decide that day and go wherever she wants. Sometimes we take a day trip, and other times I cook for her. There are all kinds of dates.
She also tells me in advance where she’d like to go next, rather than deciding everything on the day.
That’s what papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is really supposed to be, with an adult relationship (intimate) potentially developing from there.