There’s a male member who gave me an allowance only at our first meeting. After that, he gave me no allowance, just mainly brought gifts such as food. Personally, this isn’t what I’m looking for, so I don’t want to see him anymore.
From the man’s perspective, is it normal to get intimate and then leave without giving any allowance?
And would it be okay for me to cut things off with him now?
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It’s entirely up to you whether you decide to cut ties.
But before doing that, why not tell him directly that you can’t meet without an allowance?
I think things often don’t work out in this world unless you’re able to clearly stand up for yourself.
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Hmm, there are people you’d want to spend time with even without an allowance, but this is a dating club, after all.
Normally, I think a true gentleman is someone who clearly understands that money is part of the arrangement.
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If things continue as they are, it’ll feel like you’re selling yourself short, so… I think it might be best to end things. ('･_･`)
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As I mentioned before, there are men at Universe Club who become reluctant to pay the allowance after the first meeting.
I can’t bring myself to ask for the allowance directly while sitting face-to-face with someone. I think many women feel the same—or simply don’t want to ask. It’s really disheartening when men take advantage of that and then claim they thought it was a romantic relationship.
I’m very cautious about adult relationships (intimate), so I’ve never had anyone refuse after we agreed to one. But you must have had a really unpleasant experience. If it were me, I might send a LINE message saying, “I forgot to receive my allowance the other day. I’d appreciate it if you could take care of it.” If he still didn’t pay, I’d definitely leave feedback with the club.
Also, ask them to give the man the lowest possible rating. You can change the rating later, too. I heard that if every woman did this, his rating would drop and the club would warn him—and if he continued, he could even be forcibly banned.
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Before coming to the club, I’ve had a papa tell me that he didn’t need to give me an allowance, and I ended up doing what we were supposed to do anyway. It was a lot of trouble afterward, so I won’t do that again.
I did give him something afterward, so if that was all part of his plan, I have to hand it to him. Either way, I’m fine with how it turned out.
I know I’m not exactly one to talk, but if the questioner never said they didn’t want an allowance, then a papa who doesn’t give one is a bad papa. I think it’s fine to cut him off.
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Depending on the person you meet, there are also relationships where you do what adults do without an allowance. I haven’t done that through a dating club.
If you don’t want to meet her, I think you can simply cut things off. You don’t need anyone else’s permission or approval.
P.S. I just remembered that there have been a few times when I was told, “You don’t need an allowance today,” and we ended up doing what adults do without one.
Also, lately I’ve been called out for tea or a meal by a woman with a bad reputation who says that if we’re not having sex, she doesn’t need an allowance.
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