I’m currently seeing one papa, but his allowance is a little low, so I’m thinking of looking for other papas as well. Even after I started seeing him, I continued meeting a few men who sent me offers, but after each meeting, the men rate me, and when my star rating changed, my papa found out that I had met other men and got angry.

On top of not feeling fulfilled, you’re worried about getting caught or being yelled at. I hope you break up with him quickly and find a decent papa. Also, since this is a place that facilitates encounters between men and women, that’s just how things are between them: what one person wants, the other may not want—or may even dislike. As I’ve mentioned before, I’m against being able to hide someone you’ve gone on a date with, or having them become hidden from you. Some men may simply decide to leave the site over that. I also don’t think women need to be given star ratings. The rating depends on who they’re dealing with, after all. Even if you happen to meet the worst woman, you should just accept that you were unlucky and see it as a valuable learning experience. If you do that, you shouldn’t have anything to complain about.

Like some of the other respondents, I think it’s best to hide people you’ve already gone on dates with. Or maybe only hide the ones who are especially strict about checking up on you… It’s so selfish of them to offer such a small allowance and then tell you not to look for anyone else. Marika, I agree with you. I wish people you’ve gone on dates with could be hidden. Once, a man told me, “Misei, your star count has gone up. How many people have you met since then? I feel lonely when I can’t see your photos every day.” It really creeped me out. Of course, I’m sure there are men who use the site differently, but some papas monitor you so closely that they drive you to take a break or pressure you to quit. I’m having a hard time with that too.

You call it unfair, but if that’s how you feel, why don’t women pay the club an admission fee or a token of appreciation when they receive an offer? I date on the assumption that I’ll be seeing multiple people, so I’m fine with it if my rating goes up to four or five stars because I’m seeing other men. But if you’re dating a man who wants you to be exclusive, shouldn’t you first tell him honestly, “The allowance isn’t enough”? Something about this felt rather sneaky.

It is possible to hide only specific people. Ideally, I think you should hide every man you’ve gone on a date with. That way, even if a man you’re seeing asks you about it, you can say: “I didn’t do anything, but did his profile just disappear? I wonder why. I’ll ask Universe about it next time.” You can make it seem as though it happened without your knowledge. And even if that man has a friend at Universe who discovers that you hid him individually, if all of the men you’ve dated are hidden, then you can suggest things like: “Maybe Universe changed its system?” “Maybe each branch started doing it that way?” “Maybe it depends on the staff member at Universe?” That way, the story that the woman didn’t do anything still makes sense. So even if it’s a hassle, I recommend telling them every time, “Please hide the man I went on a date with this time.” Then you can say: “I didn’t do anything. Maybe Universe did it automatically on their end? I really don’t know anything about it.” For example, if each branch hides the profiles of the people someone has dated, and the man asks the staff member handling his arrangements, that person isn’t from the relevant branch. Even if they say, “That shouldn’t be possible,” it won’t sound very credible. People may wonder, “Why would that happen when they’re all employees of the same company?” But that’s also one of Universe’s strengths—and one of the things that makes it unique. In reality, many men have experienced staff members giving them different information, or refusing to tell them anything at all. Men who have been members for a long time are probably more likely to understand this. If a man says, “That’s impossible,” he’s probably either lying or a new member. Things are always changing. They differ from branch to branch. They even differ depending on the staff member handling your account. And yet, it’s all ultimately the same company. That’s Universe, so I think this strategy could work. Of course, there’s a chance it won’t. If it doesn’t, I’d like you to play the little devil and simply smile sweetly and say, “Tehepero,” to get out of it. P.S. “Wouldn’t Universe lose offers and revenue if everyone did this? This is a heartfelt wish from female members: ‘Please hide the profiles of everyone we’ve met.’” I don’t think it would reduce their revenue. Most staff members seem to believe that they can’t make an offer to a woman they’ve already arranged a date with. (See Note 1.) If a second offer can’t be made, there’s no need for her profile to remain visible. In fact, I think it’s stranger for the profiles of women who can’t receive offers to still be visible. There was a period when the staff hid them manually, but at the time there were fewer employees, and it took a long time to go from receiving an offer to arranging the date. Since they wanted the staff to spend the time saved from manual hiding on arranging dates, the system of hiding the profiles of people you had dated was discontinued. The number of employees has now more than tripled since then, so I wonder why they still haven’t brought it back. That said, they apparently do want to implement it if it can be automated. So I suppose the issue is simply when they can add it to the system. (Note 1) A few years ago, I wrote in the Q&A section something along the lines of, “You can also receive a second offer. Women usually turn it down, but Universe will go that far.” The branches apparently pushed back, telling men, “Maezawa is just saying whatever he wants. We can’t do that.” There’s no rule anywhere saying that a second offer isn’t allowed, though. It’s quite a mess.

It might be easier to continue if you talk to the club and ask whether they can hide your profile (*'ᵕ' )☆ They check in every day…? That sounds pretty controlling (´・ω・｀) To avoid any trouble down the line, I’d suggest talking to the club about it (⑅•ᴗ•⑅)◜..°♡

I think your only option is to have your profile hidden from that papa (a male supporter). If he presses you about that too, and you don’t think you can get away with lying about taking a break or leaving the club, you might as well genuinely suspend or cancel your Universe membership and register with another dating club. There is a risk that your papa may be registered with multiple clubs, but if you sound him out, you can probably get a general idea. If everyone did this, Universe might receive fewer offers and lose revenue. But I hope they understand that this is the inevitable result of neglecting women members’ earnest request to have the profiles of people they’ve met hidden. Marika Mr. Maezawa, what I meant was that one woman would no longer be able to receive offers from multiple men. Was that really unclear?

I believe you can hide your profile from him, so please ask the staff. Once he’s hidden, tell him he’s the only papa you’re seeing to make him feel good, while you look for your next good papa. A papa who offers a low allowance, won’t allow you to see anyone else, and then gets angry about it isn’t a gentleman at all. For the sake of the club, I almost wish they’d remove him. There seem to be a lot of questions about disappointing papas today.