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May 9, 2022 21:05
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I’m sure there are people who like women like that too~ ₍ᐢ⑅•ᴗ•⑅ᐢ₎♡
It might be a good match for male members who are submissive~
Other
It’s good to have your own opinions, but if you realize that your wording can be harsh, you may want to think a little more carefully about how you express yourself.
If you’re aware that you’re saying things like:
“I’m harsh, but I’m right.”
“Even if I put things bluntly, people should forgive me.”
then you may eventually run into difficulties in the wider world.
Rather than focusing only on getting your own point across, I think it’s much more attractive—and much smarter—to stand by your beliefs while also considering the situation around you and the other person’s perspective when you communicate.
Akari
Other
Even if you’re beautiful, being strong-willed alone will eventually make everyone leave you.
Learn to navigate the world better, and take Aya as an example.
Other
I also take looks—whether she’s my type—and age, preferably early 20s, into consideration when deciding whether to pursue an arrangement.
Among the girls I’m seeing, there are some who freely say what they think. Since they seem aware of it themselves, I’m helping them make some adjustments.
Since I’m seeing multiple people, I don’t mind having girls with various personalities, but ideally, I prefer the type Aya described.
This is completely beside the point, but if I were hiring for my company, I’d choose someone like the type Aya described over someone like you, the questioner. That said, even someone in the former category would still clearly speak their mind.
Some girls occasionally mistake being outspoken for simply having a harsh way of speaking. If you have someone around you whom you can consult, it might be worth taking another look at which one applies to you.
To be honest, attractive young women are born every year, of course, so I think the advantage of having only those qualities has a limited shelf life.
Other
That kind of person is actually pretty common among foreigners. The fact that it even becomes an issue is something I think is uniquely Japanese, where social pressure to conform is so strong.
When all is said and done, some people simply aren’t bothered by it. In fact, I imagine plenty of men find them easier to deal with than women who seem feminine and nice on the surface but are emotionally messy underneath—like natto.
Besides, if you’re asking here, wouldn’t it be quicker to just ask your partner directly, “Why are you still seeing someone like me?” Maybe, as you suspect, it’s your looks. Or perhaps the personality trait you’re worried about is actually what they find attractive. Then again, maybe it’s something completely different—their only weakness might be your small breasts and those assertive nipples driving them wild. But hey, that’s life too.
Taro
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Women in their early twenties who are strong-willed often seem immature or thoughtless, yet overly pushy, which I find frustrating. Reading this question gave me the same feeling.
I think she’s being forgiven not because she’s attractive, but because she doesn’t have a penis. I’m not good with people who make me uncomfortable—they’re a hassle.
That said, I do seem to find strong-willed women such as nurses and flight attendants attractive. Thinking about it as I write this, I realize that being strong-willed and being aggressively outspoken are two different things. Plenty of strong-willed women are considerate in how they express themselves.
I think making strong assertions without the substance to back them up is simply undignified. Rather than hiding behind excuses about your looks, I think you should develop the substance to match.
Other
I don’t think you need to worry about it too much. You’ve already concluded that “because I’m attractive, people will forgive me for being strong-willed.” I understand wanting reassurance, but if you haven’t had anyone distance themselves because of it so far, you’re probably fine.
That said, you’re still only 20—are you a student? If so, being strong-willed may be tolerated for now, but it could start working against you once you reach your mid-20s.
What people expect from women changes with age, so the question is whether you can build up selling points beyond being “strong-willed” and “pretty.” You may eventually need something more than just a forceful personality.
Otherwise, you could end up completely outshone by women who are kind, soothing, and cute—there are plenty of them—or by genuinely intelligent career women. Good luck.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
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Some people aren’t comfortable with it, while others are.
And this question… why did you ask it in the first place?
Whether or not there are people who aren’t comfortable with it, if you feel that “everyone probably overlooks it because of your looks,” then you’re not actually having any problems, are you?
Were you just trying to brag?
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Your favorite girl??
I thought so, but maybe there’s a slight difference in age??
If she’s exceptionally attractive and responds amazingly well in bed, there’s no problem at all. Girls who are strong-willed and at that age are cute, too.
I feel like strong-willed or intimidating girls tend to respond incredibly well in bed and climax for sure. That contrast is irresistible… and because of that, spending time with her over dinner feels really comfortable too.