What’s the difference between men who compliment your looks and those who don’t? Even among papas and men my age (in their 20s), some compliment me and others don’t. I feel like papas tend not to compliment me as much. Even when they do, they often use indirect expressions like, “You’re platinum, so you’re more than good enough,” or “I have pretty high standards when it comes to looks.” Men who don’t compliment me never say anything at all.
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Men my age, on the other hand, simply tell me directly that I’m cute.
Of course, I’m happier when someone tells me I’m cute every time we meet. It makes me want to keep making an effort to look even cuter each time we see each other.
Why don’t men who never say it compliment me? Could it be that they don’t really think I’m cute and are only seeing me as a compromise?
Do all of you tell the person you’re dating that they’re cute?
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Some men are naturally good at giving compliments, while others aren’t. I think it’s simply a matter of personality, so you probably don’t need to worry about it too much.
Personally, I feel that people who are good at complimenting others have a low threshold for saying flattering things and probably compliment all kinds of people. So I might think, “He’s really good at giving compliments,” but it wouldn’t necessarily make me that happy.
Actually, maybe compliments only feel good when they come from someone you like.
Since you want to be complimented, I think you should just tell him that.
Depending on your personality, you could try saying it in a slightly playful, needy way, like, “Compliment me more!”
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I’m Misato, a female member.
It’s true—some people praise you often, while others hardly do. And as Makeotoko said, there are people who simply shower you with compliments, and others who specifically tell you what they found wonderful about you.
I’m happiest when someone gives me specific compliments. That’s why, whether at work or elsewhere, I also make a point of telling people what I admire about them whenever I notice something wonderful, regardless of their gender.
For men who aren’t very good at giving compliments, how about telling them what you like about them first and encouraging them to do more of it? You might also try telling them that it makes you happy to be complimented.
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Thank you for your comment, Makeotoko. My name is Misato, written 美惺. Nice to meet you.
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I don’t really like being complimented because it feels like the other person is just flattering me. So I don’t want to come across as flattering someone else either, and I only say it when I genuinely feel strongly about it. I’ve probably been that way since I was young.
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Complimenting someone is actually pretty difficult. Depending on the woman’s personality:
- Some are fine as long as you compliment them a lot.
- Others become wary if your compliments aren’t specific, so you shouldn’t praise them too casually.
I broadly divide women into those two types. To figure out which type someone is, I ask subtle psychological questions during the letter-date stage or first date—without making it obvious—and try to get a sense of her personality.
Picking up women is a science, after all.
P.S. Misaki, thank you for engaging with me♡
Sorry, I’m terrible with names—how do you read yours? 😅
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It depends on the person.
For women who are happy when you call them cute, I make an effort to tell them they’re cute a lot.
But I don’t say it to women who are used to hearing it and don’t really react.
Women can be picky too. If you keep calling someone cute, eventually “cute” alone may not be enough. They may start wanting you to explain what’s cute about them or compliment other good qualities.
I’ve also heard that women who are used to being called cute get tired of hearing it. Apparently, compliments other than “cute” are the only ones that really resonate with them.
Everyone’s different.
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I’m Awawa, and I’m terrible at accepting compliments, haha.
I never know how to respond, so I just get all flustered｡ﾟ(ﾟ´Д｀ﾟ)ﾟ｡
I’d actually love to know how everyone else responds when they’re complimented!
I always end up denying it with, “Oh, no, not at all!”
Someday, I want to become the kind of woman who can confidently say, “Thank you (*^^*)” when someone tells me I’m cute〜(´；ω；｀)
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I’m happy when someone compliments me, but some people just don’t, so I guess it depends on the person.
There are a few people here who always compliment me, and it really does make me happy♡
Even if someone isn’t particularly cute, a person who can find something to compliment is probably very observant and considerate.
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I don’t really give many compliments.
I might say things like “You’re sexy” during intimacy, though lol.
I get embarrassed when I compliment someone in the first place, so I’m just not very good at it.
But I’m meeting you because I think you’re cute or beautiful, so I don’t think you need to be overly suspicious.
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As I said in my answer to the previous question, I do compliment people.
I feel like I probably compliment them in some way every time. Not just their appearance—I compliment their mannerisms, words and actions, personality, and various other things, because there are plenty of things worth praising.
I don’t think I’d date someone I had nothing to compliment, and maybe I’m the type who only wants an adult relationship (intimate) with someone like that.
Also, in business settings, whether involving people inside or outside the company, I compliment things and people I genuinely think are good, and I believe I’m the type to express my feelings directly.
As for complimenting a woman’s appearance, as I mentioned in my answer to another question, I only do so when she’s my type and I’m viewing her as a woman.
Rather than being good at giving compliments, I think I’m simply someone who’s honest about my feelings.
I feel like many people who aren’t good at giving compliments also aren’t particularly good at expressing themselves.
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That’s true—I hardly ever compliment women from the club.
When I meet someone outside the club in the usual way, though, I find myself complimenting her more and more as we get to know each other.
Maybe it’s because, by the time I make an offer, I’ve already chosen her from among thousands of women, so I feel like I’ve already expressed my interest. Or perhaps it’s because, unlike an ordinary relationship, it’s a kind of contract involving money.
With a regular relationship, you first have to get her to like you, have her agree to see you again, and eventually reach the point where there’s a possibility of an adult relationship (intimate) with someone you like—without an allowance, of course—similar to meeting a woman you like at the club on the first day. That can take many dates, or even years including failed attempts. So you don’t just make advances; you also make a real effort to compliment her and show her how much you like her.
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I think it simply comes down to whether he’s good at giving compliments or not…
My papa (a male supporter) tells me things like that, and it makes me really happy:
“You look cute today too.”
“You have a great figure.”
“Your outfit is cute.”
…and so on.
That said, if it were me, I probably wouldn’t show it, but I might secretly get annoyed at hearing, “You’re platinum, so that’s good enough.”
What do you mean, “good enough”!?
To all the men out there, if you think a woman is wonderful, I’d really appreciate it if you’d just compliment her honestly.（笑）
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