I met a man I found on a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) site for the second time before Golden Week, but he hasn’t invited me out again. He had plans during Golden Week, and I told him I’d be working the whole time. He said we could go out for dinner after Golden Week, but I haven’t heard from him since we parted after our second meeting.
He hasn’t logged into the site at all either. Could he simply be busy because of Golden Week? Even if he were busy, if he was interested in me, he would contact me, wouldn’t he?
Unfortunately, I don’t think that man is very strongly attracted to you at the moment.
That said, even someone like that might start replying after you keep reaching out, and may come to like you once you meet in person. If it were me, I’d keep contacting him and not worry about it.
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I’m Misei, a female member.
I understand how anxious and impatient you feel when you haven’t been invited—I feel the same way. Ideally, we’d like the men to invite us, right…?
He may simply have been busy up until now. If you’re worried, why not try sending something like, “I’ve been wanting to see you during Golden Week, so I decided to reach out”?
By the way, there are still a few people who haven’t replied to me about our next plans either…
I hope you’re able to make arrangements♪
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You won’t find out by asking here.
All you can do is wait for them to reply.
It’s something only they can answer. This is your second question, and you’re starting to come across as a little pushy and someone who jumps to conclusions. You should probably be careful not to make them dislike you.
They could have all sorts of reasons, after all.
Were they really busy during Golden Week?
Did they find another cute girl with a nice personality?
Did their wife find out and send things into chaos?
Did they hit their balls on the edge of the bathtub and end up in the hospital?
No one knows（笑）
If they don’t contact you, start looking for your next papa.
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Some people log in casually during their lunch break, while others only log in when they’re in the mood for something sexy, so I think it’s simply a matter of the timing not lining up right now (*^^*).
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Some people are still on their Golden Week break through today. Why are you in such a hurry? Rather than settling on just one person, why not see several people at the same time?
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I don’t know which site you’re using, so this may not apply, but speaking from experience with these kinds of sites and apps: some let men appear offline if they’re paying for a premium plan. So he may not be busy—he may simply not be interested.
That said, if you’ve exchanged LINE contact information, I don’t think he has zero interest, so it might be worth reaching out once.
Of course, if you don’t consider him that great a match either, it’s probably fine to just leave things as they are.
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> That person hasn’t logged into the site at all.
You’ve exchanged LINE contact information, right? If so, I don’t think whether they’re logging into the site really matters. Some apps also seem to offer paid features that hide your online status.
Why not try contacting them after Golden Week? They might be traveling during the holiday and unable to reply.
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Since you already told him you’d be working the whole time, just focus on your work without worrying about it.
If you want to get in touch, it might be best for you to update him on the situation.
If he still doesn’t reply, then let it go.
From his perspective, reaching out might feel like he’s pressuring you, so he may be waiting for you to contact him.
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I think he may simply be busy…
If it’s bothering you that much, why not swallow your pride and suggest some dates? I’m sure he’d appreciate that too.
That said, my monthly supporter told me, “After Golden Week,” and I still haven’t heard from him or set a date, so I’m nervously wondering if he’s going to end things. He’s such a wonderful person, which makes it all the more disappointing—I feel like I’d regret it for about six months if he cut me off…
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