Ever since I was young, men meeting me for the first time have almost always said something complimentary, such as, “You’re beautiful,” “You’re gorgeous,” “You have an incredible aura,” or “You’re very alluring.”
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Normally, being complimented would make you happy, but whenever someone compliments me, I assume they’re just flattering me to keep me in a good mood, or that they only want to make me feel good so they can sleep with me.
The reason is that I personally can’t compliment a man to his face when I genuinely think he’s wonderful upon first meeting him.
What do you all think?
Men, do you openly and directly tell a woman that you think she’s beautiful?
And is there usually some ulterior motive behind your compliments?
I don’t like being complimented by people I’ve just met either. I can’t help thinking, “You’ve only known me for five minutes—what could you possibly know about me?” lol
It’s not that I’m cynical or anything. When someone I like compliments me, I’m genuinely thrilled and squeal with delight. I just don’t really trust people who give me those insincere-sounding compliments right after meeting me.
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I’m Misa, a female member.
It’s sad that you can’t simply feel happy when someone compliments you. I get the sense that your past experiences may have led you to think that way.
When someone compliments me, I try to respond honestly with, “Thank you.”
My papa (a male supporter) compliments me all the time, too, so I enjoy spending time with him, and it makes me feel good as a woman. I hope you meet someone wonderful in the future. (^-^)
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Since adult relationships are possible through dating clubs, there’s no need to be coy—I compliment their appearance directly.
I try complimenting them and see how they react. If they’re happy about it, I give them plenty of compliments.
For women who, like you, don’t respond well to that, I stop complimenting their appearance and look for things to praise about their personality or behavior.
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I’m saying it to women as a compliment—or rather, with genuine admiration ₍ᐢ⑅•ᴗ•⑅ᐢ₎♡
There’s absolutely no ulterior motive♪
When I say, “Your skin is so beautiful!” I genuinely mean it with an envious, admiring look (*_ _)
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
Even if it isn’t all completely true, just be happy to hear it.
You’d be happy if someone told you that you’re attractive, right? Why assume there must be some ulterior motive? Maybe deep down, you lack confidence. You must be feeling lonely.
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In an upscale dating club, men usually scrutinize their options carefully. They look at the photos and videos over and over, read the staff comments closely, and keep wondering, “Is she really my type?”
More than half of them only make an offer after going through that process.
Since the offer comes after such careful consideration, it means she definitely had qualities that appealed to him.
In most cases, it’s her appearance that he likes. If a woman is his type, I think many men will compliment her, and I don’t believe those compliments are insincere.
That said, some men may not be good at giving compliments, so there may be men who don’t say anything. But even then, they may feel just as complimentary toward her internally.
> Is there sometimes another motive behind the compliments?
At the very least, it shows that he wants to get closer to you. I think it helps to see it as a man who is making an effort because he wants to build a good relationship with you.
But in most cases, I think the compliments are genuine. He’s simply making an effort to put those honest feelings into words.
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In my case, I only compliment someone’s appearance when I find them attractive and see them as a woman.
So I’m pretty straightforward about it. I don’t want to sleep with just anyone, so I’m not the type to compliment someone just for the sake of it.
Even after we’ve been seeing each other for a while—or even if we get married—I’ll keep complimenting her.
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Isn’t it rare for someone to say, “You’re not my type,” or “You’re less attractive than I expected,” when meeting for the first time?
Most people will compliment you for the time being, since that makes things go more smoothly from there on. And that applies even outside papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
So maybe you could take it as nothing more than a greeting.
That said, if you were really not their type at all, they probably wouldn’t compliment your appearance. They might compliment your personality instead… So I think you’re probably genuinely attractive, and you can have more confidence in yourself!
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When I was younger, I couldn’t bring myself to flatter people to their faces, but now I can say those things without hesitation—the more gray hair and deeper wrinkles I have, the easier it gets（笑）
There’s no ulterior motive. People change with age and experience, too.
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There are certainly men who are really good at giving compliments, aren’t there?
When I’m complimented, I’m slightly modest about it, but I try to accept it honestly and say, “Oh, not at all… Thank you♪”
Trying to read too much into everything would only wear me out, so I figure it’s probably more endearing to just accept the compliment sincerely.
As for me, I’m unbelievably bad at giving compliments, so I usually tell the other person that upfront. Then, when the moment feels right or there’s a special occasion, I gather my courage and say something nice (lol).
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I only compliment her when I genuinely think she looks prettier than usual, or when it naturally comes up in conversation. There’s no ulterior motive—I’m simply saying what I’m thinking.
Do you have sex just because being complimented puts you in a good mood? I don’t think women are that easy to win over, so I never complimented her for that reason.
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I’ll be straightforward—there’s no hidden meaning.
For starters, I’m not good at giving compliments just for the sake of it. I’m barely able to do it at all.
I can only say what I genuinely feel, and I’ve never approached anyone unless I truly felt that way about them. That’s how I’ve always been.
Some men may do that with someone they consider a safe choice, but I’m not handsome, so safe-choice women weren’t interested in me in the first place. As a result, there was never any conflict between the two sides. You could also say there was simply no need to say it.
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