Hello. He isn’t a man I met here, but someone I met through a delivery service. I’d appreciate any advice. We also have an adult relationship (intimate), but I haven’t received even one yen in allowance for meeting outside the establishment.
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When I told him on the first day of Golden Week that I wanted the day’s pay because I’d be taking the day off from work, he got angry and told me to check how much money I had in my bank account. When I brought it up after Golden Week ended, he said he understood, but then said he has a wife and that there could be trouble with the tax office, so he still hasn’t made the transfer. When I questioned him about it, he said he still had emergency small-lot funds left. Considering that I have ¥100,000 in payments to make, I want to work.
He showed me a black card and said we should go shopping with the concierge at a department store, but he never went.
When I said his house was messy, he said he had booked a cleaning service, but no one came. He takes me to look at appliances and furniture, but never buys anything.
He calls to ask about the documents needed for driving school, but never goes through with the enrollment process.
He said we would go to the bank together on the 6th to deposit a substantial amount of money, but then he went back to his hometown. He is coming to my hometown on the 13th for something related to the tax office, but I don’t know what day it will be. He has also talked about adopting me and says documents such as family-register records and a certificate of seal registration will be needed, with a lawyer present.
I’m fine with cutting ties with him, but he has a mobile phone contract in my name. If I cancel it, getting a new iPhone would cost around ¥200,000, so I’m worried.
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You’ve really been through a lot. Poor thing… I wish I could listen to you over tea.
I may not have much advice to offer, but it’s obvious that you’re being deceived. End things as soon as possible and move on to the next opportunity.
Also, just take a chance and go in for an interview at a men’s esthetic salon. These days, you can sometimes earn more at a men’s esthetic salon than at a delivery health service, and there’s no risk of contracting an STI. You may even find a papa (a male supporter) through the salon. And if you’re uncomfortable with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you could make a private arrangement with a regular customer you get along with—without telling the salon—and earn about as much as you would through papa-katsu.
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A lot of people have already pointed this out, but your question gives off a very “not quite right” impression.
Since you’re a club member, I think you should take another look at things like your profile. This is just speculation, but it may be giving off the same somewhat disappointing impression.
I imagine there are a certain number of less-than-gentlemanly men mixed in among the club members, so unless you’re presenting yourself in a way that makes those kinds of men want to approach you, you may simply not be receiving many offers in the first place.
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You keep getting conned—you seem to be an easy mark who’s good for free sex.
You should’ve realized something was wrong when you were deceived right from the start.
The only actual loss anyone’s worried about is probably the iPhone.
(I didn’t understand the part about the adoption.)
Why not keep working hard and hold on to the “terihiru” as your own?
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I don’t care about anything else anymore, and I couldn’t care less whether you get paid or get charged—but what do you mean by “adoption”?
Is someone adopting someone else?
Are you people out of your minds?
Marika
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If what’s keeping you tied to the questioner is the monthly fee for a phone plan, then in papa-katsu terms, a “monthly arrangement” would be around ¥10,000–¥30,000.
For ¥10,000–¥30,000, they’re being given free rein.
I think it might help to write down your current situation and organize your thoughts. (*'▽'*)♪
By the way, just the other day, I was part of a large gathering that included a male member. (The others weren’t from a dating club—they were just regular people.)
It was my first time seeing someone use shareholder perks (or rather, experiencing them, since it was at karaoke), but he never once used them as bait to say, “Now worship me! Do whatever I say!”
On the contrary, he properly looked after everyone, saying things like, “Everyone, please drink up.”
That’s what a gentleman is.
The person in front of the questioner is a pervert.
Maybe he’s waving around the training camp brochure and quietly enjoying watching you dance to his tune?
P.S.
An adopted child?
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Um, when people meet through something like that, isn’t it usually one of two things?
Either there’s no allowance or money at all (because they have a reason to meet anyway),
or it’s ¥200,000 or ¥300,000 every time (more like the woman is getting a lot out of the man—is he being deceived?).
How can there be neither a reason to meet nor any money involved? What exactly is going on??
I know some relationships develop into romance or marriage, but this doesn’t seem like one of those cases…?
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So you work as a call girl, right?
Did you really trust a man who comes to a place like that? Anyone can see that there’s something seriously wrong with you, can’t they?
Maybe the STI bacteria have reached your brain and made you lose your mind. Don’t have unprotected sex with men from the club, or you’ll just spread it further.
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I’m not really sure where the question is here, but if the final “I’m worried” means, “I’m worried—what should I do?” then:
It’s difficult to judge based on only one side of the story, but from what you’ve described, I’d say there’s almost a 100% chance you’ve been scammed. At this point, it would actually be strange to expect anything from the other person.
> I don’t mind if we cut ties, but there’s a phone contract in my name. If I cancel it, getting a new iPhone will cost around ¥200,000, so I’m worried.
As for this, if the other person has no intention of paying you back, it seems difficult to recover the money. Your only real options may be to contact the carrier, suspend the phone, and cancel the contract.
If they have any sincerity, they might return the money if you ask, but based on what you’ve written, it feels like this could turn into a situation where they keep saying, “I’ll pay you back soon,” and you never see the money again.
If you let this drag on, your losses may only grow. I think you should cut your losses at ¥200,000 and be more careful not to get scammed like this again.
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