Thankfully, I met a man who had sent me an offer for the first time. He gave me transportation money as soon as we met, and we went out for dinner.
Afterward, he asked, “What do you want to do now?” I thought you were supposed to just go with the flow in situations like this, so I left it up to him—and we went to a hotel. But there was no allowance, and he didn't use protection, which came as a shock.
He told me he didn't want me meeting other people and asked me to quit Universe Club and become his girlfriend. Was the reason he didn't give me an allowance because he considered me his girlfriend?
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I hope you meet someone decent next time(´；ω；｀)
It would be nice if you could give proper feedback and at least receive your transportation costs₍ᐢ⑅•ᴗ•⑅ᐢ₎♡
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Since anything after dinner is considered free-form dating, if he explicitly told you he wanted to go to a hotel without paying any allowance, the club can’t really say anything.
However, assuming that there’s no allowance simply because he didn’t say anything makes me think either the man doesn’t understand how dating clubs work, or he intended to deceive you.
You should consult the club about this as well. Basically, since the relationships are voluntary, the club doesn’t get involved, but a dating club is a place where men pay women and are introduced to potential partners. Not paying any allowance goes against the whole purpose of a dating club.
The club can ask the man for his side of the story and, if he acted against the club’s principles, discuss having him leave the club. In that case, he may end up giving you an allowance, or he may be forcibly removed from the club if he accepts that outcome.
That said, going forward, make sure to confirm the terms before entering the room. Tell him how much allowance you expect, or at least ask what amount he has in mind, and only proceed once you’re satisfied.
> Is this more or less normal…?
Usually, it isn’t, but there are people like that on rare occasions. The club also considers such men unsuitable, so please report him to the club.
(That said, don’t get emotional and demand that he be banned. Please keep your feelings under control when making the report.)
You may meet a good person next time.
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That man sounds like a terrible experience, especially just one week after you joined…
As Yuriné said, when meeting someone for the first time, it’s best to confirm everything and communicate your preferences before going to his room.
Taking care of your physical and mental health is the key to making this last. Don’t push yourself, and please take good care of yourself.
There are also many wonderful gentlemen at the club. To help prevent more female members from having to go through something like this, please be sure to send your feedback to the club.
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There was one person who offered no allowance.
You’re supposed to agree on the allowance beforehand, so it was your mistake to leave everything up to him. It’s never a good idea to leave things entirely in someone else’s hands.
At dating clubs, there are often people who want to meet without an allowance or insist on going without protection. Make sure you clearly state what you want.
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It’s even more shocking than the guys who offer outrageous amounts on the app when asked by the girls they’re seeing, or the ones who lose their temper when girls at an agency refuse an adult relationship, even though they’re B- or C-type.
From now on, you should definitely discuss the allowance beforehand. That said, at a dating agency, if someone doesn’t bring up the subject themselves, you may want to reconsider how you deal with them in the first place.
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This isn’t the time to be saying you’re shocked. Please protect yourself.
Are you really having unprotected sex?
Didn’t you listen to what the staff told you when you joined the club? Before moving forward with an arrangement, make sure to discuss the terms upfront.
There are some people who assume that being treated like a boyfriend means no allowance, but whether to enter into that kind of relationship should be your decision as a woman.
Send your feedback to the club right away and go get tested for STIs.
Marika
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