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Apr 24, 2022 12:03
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Some women enjoy it.
Others don’t.
I look at the woman and decide whether to bring out toys or not.
But I feel like my relationships tend to be shorter with women who don’t enjoy it.
Other
I’m personally okay with it, but I think there are plenty of girls who don’t like it either〜｡ ﾟ( `>ω< )
Some people use toys in a way that hurts, though…(´；ω；｀)
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I can’t say for sure, but I think most women usually go along with their partner.
If, after the second meeting, she doesn’t ask you to use the toy from last time, she’s probably just being a kind, considerate woman who’s willing to spend time with you. On the other hand, if she asks you to use it again, that likely means she genuinely enjoyed it.
Of course, it may depend on the quality of the toy itself, as well as how well it suits the woman.
Everyone has different preferences, so I’m sure some women do enjoy it. But since many women are considerate, I think most are simply adjusting to their partner.
I wish men would learn to read the situation properly, too.
Other
It depends on the person, as well as the type of toy and how it’s used. Sometimes it can be amazing, while other times you’re just like, “Please, stop.”
Using toys with someone who’s already great in bed can make things incredible. What exactly makes it so incredible is something only my papa knows…
I hate being tied up regardless of who I’m with, and visual stimulation is important to me, so I don’t like blindfolds either. I do like things to be a little forceful, though, so I enjoy having my hands held down.
I could go on forever if I got into the details, and everyone is different, so maybe figuring out what works for each person is part of the fun.
You can’t have good sex if you’re just focused on your own ideas and not paying attention to your partner.
Marika
Other
There are probably a certain number of people like that, but I’ve never met one—not even among people I dated normally in the past.
Maybe they just don’t say it even if they like it, but when I asked the girl I’m seeing now about it, she said she didn’t like it.
I don’t like using toys or tying someone up either, so I don’t do those things. I’d be a little uncomfortable if I were asked to.
If both people genuinely want to do it, I don’t see a problem at all. But if it causes either person distress, it can still be difficult even in an allowance-based relationship.
Please don’t push yourself.