I’m the person who asked yesterday how to deal with a papa who takes baths even though he has a unit bathroom.
This content is machine-translated.
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12963
I asked, “Is this normal?” because I wanted to understand what might be considered a basic standard of common sense in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
The fact that married men pay young women for sex without going through an agency, or that people ask and answer questions in a place like this in the middle of a weekday, aren’t things that can really be discussed publicly. That’s why I felt it was important to understand what people in this world expect, so I asked the question.
Because of that, I was confused by some irrelevant, mocking answers like Kazu’s. However, most people said things like, “I do think it’s an unusual behavior. Whether you continue seeing him is up to you,” so I’m thinking I’ll meet him a few more times and decide.
Thank you to everyone who answered sincerely without making fun of me.
My question this time is about the fact that this papa in his 50s plays random music on Apple Music during sex.
Western music would have been one thing, but Japanese pop came on, and he thrust and finished in time with the rhythm of Aimer’s “Zankyou Sanka.”
Naturally, I didn’t feel good at all. It was so ridiculous that I couldn’t hold back my laughter and ended up bursting out laughing while he was thrusting.
When he asked why I was laughing, I brushed it off by saying, “I’m feeling so good I’ve gone a little crazy,” and he seemed satisfied. But if it’s like this next time too, I don’t think I’ll be able to get in the mood, and I probably won’t be able to tighten up at all.
I’d prefer silence, or at least Western music. How should I ask him?
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂20s👑Universe female member
Welcome back.
You’re the person who previously said you had 600 papas—men you have financial arrangements with—right?
When he asked, “Why are you laughing?” you should’ve said something like, “The music is weird. J-pop doesn’t really set the mood.” Otherwise, he’ll keep misunderstanding the situation.
The unit bathroom is the same. If you don’t tell him what bothers you, he won’t realize it.
If you don’t want to break things off, try to explain it gently without sounding harsh. You can communicate it tactfully.
If you keep forcing yourself, you’ll only end up feeling miserable.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I’ve never had music playing during a date, so I can’t say for sure, but that person sounds pretty unusual.
If you can’t concentrate with music on, I think all you can do is ask them to turn it off.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
> I wanted to know what the generally accepted baseline of common sense is in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
It differs from one man to another, so even if you knew this supposed “baseline of common sense,” I don’t think it would actually help you with papa-katsu.
If you’re looking for marketing data, you’d be better off conducting a survey elsewhere.
Questions here are generally intended for people who are facing an actual problem and want to resolve it.
Besides, there’s no point bringing society’s idea of common sense into a world that belongs to just the two of you. If something makes you uncomfortable, you should end things—even if it’s considered normal by society.
On the other hand, if you’re okay with it, then even if it falls outside society’s idea of common sense, I think you can continue seeing each other and enjoy some wonderful times together.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
I laughed so hard I almost choked on my frozen asparagus! (LOL)
I’ve had something like that happen too! (LOL)
And now I’m laughing again reading your answer (ﾉ≧ڡ≦)☆ You’ve been found out!
Let’s keep enjoying ourselves and doing our best～♪♪
If it were me, I might start moving my hips to the rhythm too♡ I used to get intimate at karaoke when I was younger♡♡♡
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Regarding the question about the unit bath, Marika explained my curt response as follows:
> The reason Kazu always gives such short answers to questions like this is that he’s basically thinking, “What’s the point of asking for general opinions here instead of asking the person involved?”
Exactly. Dating is between the people involved; third parties have nothing to do with it.
Even if you learn the general standards of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I doubt the questioner’s feeling that it’s “gross from a hygiene standpoint” will change.
I’m aware that my answers can come across as curt, but I don’t recall making fun of anyone in my response to the unit-bath question.
By the way, links have been posted to the unit-bath question and another question saying, “I can’t get there because her face isn’t my type.”
Also, “Welcome back, Flag Maker,” and the comment about not having any friends were both directed at the questioner’s posts, weren’t they?
I believe you’re the one having fun mocking other people—not me.
When someone asks, “Why are you laughing?” you could just answer, “Because I’m moving my hips to the rhythm.”
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
Even I can’t get worked up over a veteran serial-posting addict… I’m just baffled—and honestly, it’s kind of ridiculous…
I tried to take the bait, but it was a bit much for me.
(3 replies left)
(3 replies left)
💡 This question has no password registered, so the reply feature is unavailable.
If you access from the device/browser used to post the question, you may be able to set a password later.
