I’ve gotten a boyfriend—do you think I should be honest with my papa and tell him?

It depends on his stance, but basically, I think it’s better to keep it hidden. However, if he already suspects something, it might leave a better impression either to adjust things with your boyfriend so he won’t be suspicious, or to take a chance and tell him. I’m the open type and don’t mind if someone has a boyfriend, but if that means I’m pushed way down their list of priorities, I lower my own priority for them too. We don’t meet that often in the first place, so I do work around her schedule. But naturally, when it comes to special occasions like Christmas, her boyfriend comes first. You say your papa (a male supporter) is only seeing you, but I don’t think that’s necessarily guaranteed at a dating club. If he has multiple partners, you may become less of a priority, or he may be the one to end things. It all depends on what you want to prioritize, so I think you should give it careful consideration before deciding how to proceed.

At the very least, I don’t think you need to tell them until you’re ready to get married. It’s best to keep things going as a relationship where neither of you interferes in or worries about the other’s life—just the two of you, exclusively.

If you’ve always been able to make plans without any problems until now, your papa (a male supporter) will probably suspect that something is going on if it suddenly becomes difficult to coordinate schedules. Some people don’t want to see other papas but are fine with having a boyfriend, while others are completely open about seeing other papas too. But unless you know for sure how he’ll react, I think it’s generally better not to say anything. In return, I’d make an effort to work around his schedule. You’ll probably seem suspicious unless you make your papa a pretty high priority. Marika

I don’t think you should tell him. Especially if he likes you. Balancing this with your boyfriend may be difficult, but I don’t think he’ll find out as long as you don’t change your current lifestyle. In other words, if you do change your lifestyle, he’ll inevitably notice—especially since you said he already seems a little suspicious—so please be careful.