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Should I send another message asking to meet??
What does he really mean by his messages?
I’m the person who has been asking for relationship advice several times since yesterday.
I posted this under the category for real-life relationship advice, not papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so I’m sorry if this is the wrong place.
Question 1: “What does a man really mean when he replies, ‘I’m a little busy this week, so I’ll see what I can do’?”
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12929
Question 2: “How long should I wait? Should I send a follow-up message?”
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/12933
Last Saturday evening, I sent him:
“My cough is gone! I was coughing quite a bit when we met, so I hope you’re feeling okay too, ○○. I’d love to see you again next week! If you’re okay with it, do you think you might be able to meet, ○○?”
That night, he replied:
“Sorry for the late reply” (he often replies late because of work, etc.)
“Glad you’re feeling better!”
“I’m feeling fine)”
“I’m a little busy next week, so I’ll see what I can do.”
That was all he said.
I simply replied:
“Thank you! I’d love to see you, but don’t push yourself if you’re busy.”
“I’m glad you’re feeling better too.”
And then he left me on read from Sunday through Wednesday…
When he said,
“I’m a little busy next week, so I’ll see what I can do,”
I can’t tell whether he meant:
“Next week is too busy, so I’ll look for a day that works around the week after,”
or:
“Next week is busy, but I’ll find a day when I can meet in between.”
I’m actually thinking of sending him this today:
“Hey, hope you’re doing well!
If this week is busy, how about next week?
I wasn’t feeling well because of my cough last week, so we couldn’t really talk properly.
A lot has happened since we met, but after seeing you again, I realized that I really do like you, ○.
Now that my cough is gone, I’d like to properly tell you how I feel.”
But if a woman sent you a follow-up message like this when you hadn’t replied, would it make you want to run away?
Sorry for the long message.
I’d be grateful if you could read it to the end.
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If he really liked you and wanted to see you, he’d probably be much more proactive about contacting you. Maybe the vibe is more like, “I don’t dislike her, but that’s about it.”
Try thinking about how you’d feel if someone you didn’t dislike—but weren’t especially into either—kept coming on really strong and messaging you constantly.
I understand that when you like someone, it’s hard to wait. But if you come on too strong and make him uncomfortable, it feels like that could be the end of it...
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There are a lot of kind answers, but honestly, I’m already annoyed just reading her repeated questions.
If she were interested in you, she would have made a move by now.
At this point, the only thing I can think of is to keep pursuing her, then suddenly pull back and make her wonder, “Wait, what?”
As Early-san said, who the message is from matters far more than its content or timing.
Marika
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Given my personality, there probably isn’t much of a chance, but some people will wait to be confessed to even if they sense the other person’s feelings. So if you’ve already made up your mind that far, I think you should go ahead and send it.
Personally, the content and timing of a message aren’t the most important factors. What matters most is simply who it’s from. If I received one from someone I had no feelings for, it wouldn’t really affect me, and I don’t think it would be likely to make me fall for them.
All you can do is hope for the best, so I’m wishing you a good outcome.
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If we’re being honest:
> “I’m a little busy next week, so I’ll see if I can work something out.”
That basically means he already has plans to see other girls next week, so the earliest he can meet you is the week after.
Because of the “if you don’t mind” in the message you sent last week, you’ve temporarily dropped to the very bottom of his priority list—basically a backup candidate. Naturally, he’ll assume you’re not interested in becoming his girlfriend, or that he isn’t even a possibility for you.
It probably comes across almost like, “If you’re not interested, don’t lead me on.”
Since you haven’t been clear when you’ve met in person, trying to clarify things through text will probably backfire too. You’d be better off sending a message that expresses your feelings more directly.
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If he’s genuinely interested, he’ll ask you out instead of keeping you on hold. The reality is that, at the moment, you’re probably third or lower on his list.
There’s a 90% chance it won’t work out, so you’re better off looking elsewhere.
If you want to prove that wrong and bet on the 10% chance, you’ll have to make a move.
Think about the benefits of dating you, and tell him how you feel.
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If you’ve already decided to send it, then I think you should—regardless of what anyone else says.
No matter what answers you get here, I feel like you’ve already made up your mind. Just do what feels right to you, so you won’t regret it.
Personally, I’d assume he’s busy this week and send something around the weekend like:
“You seem busy—are you taking care of yourself? If you find some time, I’d love to grab a meal together.”
Then I’d tell him how I feel—or confess my feelings—when we meet.
I hope things work out with him! Good luck!!
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