I have my reasons for wanting to end things with the woman I’m currently seeing. I’m worried that bringing up a breakup out of the blue would hurt her, so I’m thinking of gradually fading out instead.
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How would you go about fading out in this situation?
From a woman’s perspective, is being faded out worse?
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Gradually reduce how often you contact her and reply less often. That should let you fade out naturally. If you’re not that close—say, it’s been a pay-per-meeting arrangement for less than a year and you’ve never gone on a date without going to a hotel—there shouldn’t be a problem.
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Maybe I’m in the minority.
Even when ending things, I tell everyone why and respond right away.
If we’ve been seeing each other for a long time, I give them a parting payment.
I think I can do that because I only have a few people. If you have many, I suppose fading out is unavoidable. I think people who make lots of offers contribute more to Universe Club and society.
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Do you think subtly communicating what’s been bothering you might sometimes lead to things improving? ( ˙꒳˙ )???
Personally, I wouldn’t be too upset if someone faded out, but I’d still want to know why. If they’ve already decided they want to end things, I’d at least like to tell them how grateful I am for everything and apologize for anything I may have done wrong…
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That’s not very manly.
If you’re worried about hurting her feelings, just give her a proper parting payment and be done with it.
If you’ve been seeing each other for a long time, I imagine the amount should be substantial.
Even if you don’t want to go that far, I still think you should at least properly express your gratitude for everything so far and tell her that you want to end things.
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I’m with Paper Airplane on this one!
I’m an old guy—not handsome, and with an age gap of over 40 years—so when I started this relationship, I assumed it would end easily, since relationships through dating clubs tend to be rather superficial.
But once it actually began, I realized that it’s not going to end that easily!
Right now, I honestly have no idea where this will lead. Of course, I imagine romance or marriage may come up eventually, and I’m even looking forward to seeing when she brings it up.
Rather than waiting until she “no longer needs you,” how about waiting until she “no longer wants you around”?
I’m the type who waits, and I’m currently in a relationship. I find it really adorable when she asks, “Do you think we could see each other around ○○?”（笑）
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I think “If I break things off out of nowhere, it’ll shock her” is nothing more than a fantasy on the man’s part. What if a man who thinks she’s head over heels for him brings up breaking up, only to find that she simply saw him as one of several ATMs? The chances of getting the reaction he’s expecting are practically zero. Actually, if she shows no reaction, it just means she handled it like an adult. If you want to enrich your life experience, I encourage you to walk straight into the tiger’s den. I can’t say whether you’ll come away with a tiger cub or an orphan, but you’ll get closer to becoming a grounded man.
You’re asking how to fade out, too? Just disappear casually and without making a big deal of it. Surely you’re not thinking of sending a LINE message saying, “I’ll be fading out now.” Don’t do that.
Your replies gradually get slower, you leave messages on read when there’s no real way to keep the conversation going, and even if talk of meeting comes up, your schedules somehow stop lining up because of work or your health. You say something like, “I’ll get in touch once things settle down,” take the ball back, and then disappear. A few months later, even if they send you something, you completely ignore it—or you may have already blocked them. I’d say that’s the usual pattern. It’s such a standard move that an ordinary person should catch on after the first few steps. Watching that reaction, we sometimes think, “Ah, we really are adults dealing with each other.” Such is the melancholy of this world.
Fade-Outer Taro ≡＝ー・ ・
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You should avoid creating relationships with women where you suddenly end up having to break things off.
When you meet, it should make you want to keep seeing each other more and more—that’s the kind of relationship you should build.
That said, it only works when the other person feels the same way about you.
Having to suddenly call things off through a dating club means you really messed up—pretty badly...
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