What’s the average allowance for an adult relationship (intimate)? I’m thinking around 80,000 yen—is that too much? Someone I used to see told me it was an unrealistic amount, and that 30,000 yen is pretty normal. I didn’t join this site to be an escort, so if that’s really the norm, I’m considering leaving.
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This is a dating club, so the focus is on the relationship itself rather than the allowance.
Since it’s about dating, the allowance may naturally come afterward.
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I think 8 is on the generous side.
People tend to avoid talking about allowances, but I’ve realized that it’s also one of the biggest concerns. So, to answer your question—or rather, to repeat what I found when I asked the same thing myself—it seems to depend on both the woman and the man.
More often than not, the man is the one who brings up the allowance. It seems unusual for the woman to quote a high allowance like 8 or 10 herself.
Honestly, thinking too hard about allowances just gets confusing, so I’ve decided that anything is better than nothing.
By the way, things are worse with 円〇, so I think it’s better to use Universe and keep things steady and low-key.
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If you were told, “That amount is unbelievable. Three [万円] is pretty standard,” then, from that person’s perspective, ¥80,000 was too much for the level of service and appearance you offered.
Unfortunately, that’s the reality.
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If you’re overwhelmed by a flood of offers, you can raise it more.
If you’re barely getting any offers and urgently need money, you’ll have to lower it further.
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What’s “normal” depends on each person’s perspective.
If you feel that anything under 8 is out of the question, then either negotiate accordingly or only date someone who’s willing to offer 8 or more.
Of course, there are people who consider offering 8 or more standard, but if you want to negotiate, I think you should first put in the effort to make yourself more appealing.
Good luck!
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There’s no way to know the average allowance when nobody keeps track of the numbers.
The only truth is the stack of cash changing hands right in front of you.
It’s me.
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It varies from man to man, and from woman to woman as well.
Some women regularly receive over ¥100,000, while there are also plenty who receive ¥50,000 or less.
In this context, “normal” doesn’t mean what you might think it means. It means “an amount you can receive without negotiating.”
So when that man said, “¥30,000 is pretty normal,” he meant that some men will offer ¥30,000 if you don’t negotiate—not that ¥30,000 is the standard amount.
As for what you should do from here, if someone says, “¥30,000 is pretty normal,” and you don’t think you’ll see him again, you could respond, “I usually receive ¥80,000, though?”
Whether he’ll actually offer ¥80,000 is another matter, but I think it’s perfectly fine to maintain the personal standard that you won’t agree to anything under ¥80,000.
That said, when turning someone down, it’s important to do so humbly. You should also make an effort in various ways, such as:
- Maintaining good posture while eating
- Improving your vocabulary and using polite language
- Learning how to be considerate and gracious
- Exercising moderately to stay toned
Men often make their decisions based on looks, but if your mannerisms are elegant, your body is toned, and you have a pleasant personality, they may still want to pursue an arrangement with you.
It’s fine to stand by your pride and insist on ¥80,000. To build a solid foundation for the principle that this is non-negotiable, I think it would be a good idea to keep working on yourself in various ways.
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As for the allowance amount—which is always such a tiresome issue—if it isn’t an amount you’re comfortable with, I think you should simply walk away.
Both 80,000 and 30,000 yen are possible amounts, but it’s highly unlikely that someone hoping for 80,000 and someone hoping for 30,000 could date each other and both be satisfied.
That said, you’d be seriously mistaken to think the difference between compensated dating and dating through a relationship club is simply the allowance amount.
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