If there were no age gap with someone I’m seeing through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), would I normally consider him a romantic prospect? Let’s set aside the biggest flaw from a romantic standpoint: that he’s cheating.
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All the papas (male supporters) I’m seeing graduated from top imperial universities or national medical schools and earn high salaries. I feel relatively little stress when I’m with them, but I only see them because they give me an allowance, and I don’t actually develop feelings for them. If they were around my age and I considered them romantic prospects, would I have been able to fall for them?
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I think they’d just fall in love like normal, because they’re idiots…
It doesn’t matter whether someone is smart, earns a lot, or there’s a big age gap. If you like someone, you like them. If someone is lovable, they’re lovable. If you want to cherish someone, you cherish them. That’s all there is to it.
Of course, if you have any common sense, you’d hesitate. There’s the age gap, and you might think that keeping things as a relationship where you pay for intimacy would leave both sides reasonably happy.
There is certainly a stable middle ground, but the real question is: are you actually okay with that? Relationships like that are basically like a tennis or table-tennis rally—you hit, they hit back, and the cycle continues. If that’s what you want, then hit that kind of ball. Whether it comes back determines what happens next. But if you don’t hit the ball, there’s no next move.
On the other hand, I wonder what kind of relationship can really last under circumstances that aren’t like that. In the end, isn’t it just a very cleverly controlled form of the adult-entertainment business?
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As I always say, it’s a big mistake to assume that men who use dating clubs would cheat in a real relationship.
If I’m in a proper relationship, at least based on my experience so far, I don’t cheat.
What constitutes the biggest risk also depends on the person.
In the same way, don’t you think whether a highly educated man would be considered a romantic prospect—assuming there isn’t a significant age gap—also depends on the individual?
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To borrow Awaawa-san’s words, Marika, who’s quite romantically inclined, falls in love fairly often.
Sometimes I find myself thinking that I might have been happy if I’d married my current papa (male supporter).
Some women may feel that they simply can’t see anyone as a romantic prospect, while others may feel it depends on the man. I don’t think age matters all that much.
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A girl I’m seeing once told me that, aside from the fact that I’m married and do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’m her ideal partner.
Those two things may actually be at the root of what defines who I am now, so ultimately, I guess that means I’m not someone she could see romantically.
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Generally speaking, I think the smaller the age gap, the more likely things are to develop into a romantic relationship.
But why would men in their 20s and 30s—who have plenty of opportunities to date—go out of their way to enter the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) scene?
I think it’s because they’re not looking for a conventional romantic relationship.
papa-katsu is already a world where things are unlikely to develop into genuine romance, but when it comes to younger papas, I think the chances are even lower.
It’s me.
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If these papas looked, were built, and did their jobs just as well as they do now—but weren’t doing papa-katsu, I’d want to date them. But then again, since we met through papa-katsu in the first place, I sometimes feel it’s strange to even think that way.
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That’s a good question.
Assuming your situation is exactly the same as it is now, even if you met a guy around your own age, you might feel that being with him was stress-free, but I don’t think it would necessarily develop into romantic feelings.
Unless the guy in front of you had a strong, compelling appeal, I don’t think romantic feelings would naturally arise.
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It seems like you’ve already accomplished the club’s purpose quite well.
If you had met in a different place or under different circumstances, things might have turned out differently—perhaps becoming a romantic relationship, dating without an allowance, or something along those lines.
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If it’s someone I respect as a person and genuinely find wonderful, I think they could also become a romantic interest, regardless of the age difference.
That said, this is a dating club, so I believe the relationship should maintain certain boundaries. To me, the allowance is part of what makes that possible.
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It depends on the person.
People who are more romantically inclined tend to fall for others easily.
I’m not naturally romantic, so my private life feels a little dull. I joined a dating club because I thought that maybe, someday, I might fall in love through it.
Everyone has their own reasons for joining, so if you’re not looking for romance, I think you’re perfectly fine as you are＼(^o^)／
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It varies from person to person and depends on who you meet.
Some couples have even met through Universe and gotten married, so it seems there are also people who do become romantically involved.
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If you’re not someone they see as a romantic prospect, isn’t that okay?
Why do you need to ask why you’re not seen that way?
Even if other people are seen as romantic prospects, that won’t change anything for you, will it?
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