I’m getting frustrated because she takes so long to reply.
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We’re supposed to meet tomorrow, but she hasn’t replied even though I messaged to confirm the time.
I’m wondering what she plans to do tomorrow.
Should I get angry and cut things off, or is this just how it is..?
Slow to reply?
If the meeting time and place have already been confirmed, I don’t see any problem. But if they still haven’t been decided by the day before, I feel the questioner may share some responsibility.
If you want to end things, you can. It’s between the two of you, so that’s entirely up to you.
That said, I’m more concerned about the questioner’s personality if something this minor makes them want to cut ties. Maybe working in the sex industry would suit them better.
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I usually go to bed around 8 p.m. and start replying around 8 a.m.
So with people’s routines, private lives, and work, there may simply be times when they can’t reply right away (*'ᵕ' )☆
In my case, I’ll let them know in advance, like, “I’ll be asleep during this time slot (>_<),” or “I’m heading to a training session now, so I’ll reply when it’s over♪”
It would definitely help if they could let you know why they can’t reply.
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I also have one girl who’s slow to reply, but she’s never canceled at the last minute so far, so I’ve just left things as they are.
She’s been like that from the beginning, so I figure that’s just how she is. But if her replies have gotten worse compared to before, then as everyone says, I’d assume I’ve fallen down her list of priorities.
Rather than getting angry, I think it’s less stressful to move on to the next person.
This may sound a bit blunt, but in terms of numbers—or probability—the men are definitely in the stronger position in this world.
I treat the girls I’m seeing very well, but a one-sided relationship isn’t right either, so I wouldn’t continue seeing someone if it meant carrying that kind of stress.
I wouldn’t suddenly end things, but if unpleasant things kept happening, I’d say goodbye and look for someone else who was a better fit.
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Is it email? Not LINE?
I don’t think many people have a habit of checking their email repeatedly.
I personally hate seeing little ① or ② notifications on my phone, so I check messages as soon as I can. But I can’t have my phone with me during work, so I only check it during my lunch break and after work. Could it be that you’re sending emails around 2 or 4 p.m.? Emails sometimes end up in the spam folder for no apparent reason, so try using LINE instead.
Also, if she still leaves your message unread even after work, maybe she simply doesn’t want to meet you. Is your allowance on the low side? Are you looking for some kind of kinky adult relationship (intimate)? Or are you only offering dinner at a family restaurant? There could be various reasons, but it sounds like you’re low on her list of priorities. For now, send one message saying you’re canceling today, then move on.
There are plenty of women waiting for new offers, so ask the staff to help you choose a few—preferably someone who replies quickly on LINE and whose preferences match yours.
I hope you find someone who’s a good fit.
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If you want to end the relationship, I think it’s fine to tell her you’re upset.
If not, you should probably learn to accommodate your partner’s pace as well.
Personally, as long as there are no last-minute cancellations, I don’t mind. And if I’m notified, I’ve never cared about someone being late.
Women who are that punctual and communicative may be viewing their relationship with you more as “work.”
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It might be better to find a woman whose pace—or rather, whose preferences—match your own.
If you get irritated over something like that, it’ll only make me want to go even less.
—Akari
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If slow replies are just part of who you are, what’s the point of getting frustrated about it?
They might have thought they replied but the message never sent, fallen asleep, or run out of battery—there are plenty of possibilities.
You need to give them a sense of security through your messages and leave enough space between replies that they’ll actually want to respond quickly.
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It feels like everything has already been said, so I’m not sure I have much left to add, but it’s clear that she isn’t very motivated. To put it bluntly, I think she looks down on you.
If you really want to continue, you’ll just have to put up with it. If you don’t want to put up with it, I think you have no choice but to cut her off. Personally, I don’t like people who are careless about replying.
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Isn’t she someone who doesn’t normally use email?
Checking email just isn’t part of her daily routine.
Wouldn’t it be better to talk to her first about whether your current way of communicating works best for both of you—and switch if another method would be better?
Before thinking about what the problem is, don’t get irritated or angry. That’s pretty petty, lol.
It’s me.
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Even though we’ve properly set a time and I’ve already said it’s okay, there’s someone who asks, “Are we still on for tomorrow?” the day before, and then again that morning: “Are we definitely still meeting today?” I like everything else about him, but that one thing really irritates me.
Especially on the day, I’m working desperately to finish on time, and when I don’t reply, he keeps sending me messages. It really starts to annoy me.
But I like him, and the adult relationship is good too, so we’re still seeing each other.
Unless you’ve agreed to meet early in the morning, why not wait until around lunchtime tomorrow? If you want to make other plans, I think you could just send him a LINE message saying, “I haven’t heard back from you, so I’m going to cancel.”
Marika
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Unfortunately, it probably means he isn’t very interested.
If he wanted to meet you or continue seeing you, he’d at least reply. Maybe he’s extremely busy or doesn’t check his messages often…
I don’t think getting angry will accomplish anything. If he doesn’t respond, just send something like, “Since I haven’t heard back, let’s cancel tomorrow.”
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