I'm seeing a woman who says she has no other papas, with an allowance of 80,000 yen, but recently her replies have been very brief or slow. Most of our communication is about scheduling.
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I can't think of anything in particular that I did to upset her. Could she simply have gotten used to me, or be busy? Is there anything else that might explain it?
I'm new to dating clubs, and I often struggle with how much distance to keep from my partner.
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At first glance, I wondered if maybe she had a boyfriend or something.
If you feel even the slightest discomfort, she might not be a good match for you, so it’s probably best to look elsewhere♪♪
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She probably has another papa (a male supporter), and more importantly, she likely isn’t that into you.
In other words, she’s taking you for granted, thinking, “He needs me, so he won’t cut me off even if I don’t put in much effort.”
If she really didn’t want to lose you, she’d do her best for you regardless of whether she had another papa.
That said, if you like her, why not keep things as they are for now and see how it goes?
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Ah, she probably has other papas.
Just my personal opinion, but women who rely on one papa for their allowance tend to stay in regular, consistent contact. When you look at it from the woman’s perspective, that’s only natural.
You should try reaching out to more women and experiencing a variety of encounters. You might meet someone even better, or it may give you a chance to appreciate the good qualities of the woman you’re currently seeing all over again.
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> There are tons of insanely cute girls who are even better than Black-tier girls, so I’m actually having more fun trying to win over women at men’s esthetic salons.
You should go to men’s esthetic salons and train like Makeotoko does.
I genuinely recommend it, so give it a try—you might be pleasantly surprised.
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Since dating clubs are generally based on seeing multiple people, you can pretty much assume there are others involved.
That said, if the ups and downs stay within what you can tolerate, things will gradually settle down after about six months.
The question is whether you can put up with it that long, though. After about a year, as new people keep joining one after another and offers start to dry up, things tend to become more stable（笑）
When we first met, she would say things like, “I don’t want to hear that from some old man,” and give me a hard time. But after about four years together, she started casually calling me “a former handsome guy!”—as if it were directly proportional to the financial support she’d received.
I’m actually the one who can hardly believe it, to the point of wondering, “Are you even looking at my face properly?”
Still, no one has ever said anything like that to me before, so even if she’s just flattering me, I’m happy（笑）
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I think there’s a good chance she has another papa (a male supporter).
I don’t know whether his allowance is higher, he’s more attractive, or they’re simply more compatible, but it sounds like she may have found a papa with terms that suit her better than yours.
She may just be used to you, or genuinely busy, but if you were an important papa to her, I don’t think she would be so careless about responding. If she really were busy, she’d probably at least say something like, “I’m busy, so my replies may be delayed.”
Still, you may be able to judge from her attitude when you meet.
Why not try making a new offer yourself? It might help you stop worrying. I hope you’ll continue to treat the woman you’re currently seeing well, but if she’s acting that way, perhaps there’s not much you can do.
Maybe it’s also a kindness to remind her that this is a world where people can be replaced at any time.
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Perhaps someone like me—a papa who offers exceptionally generous allowances—made an offer to the woman the questioner is seeing, or maybe she’s simply lost motivation.
I’m actually going through a major lack of motivation myself right now.
I’ve always enjoyed pursuing A-types, but every men’s esthetic massage worker is exactly my type, and there are tons of incredibly cute women—cuter than even the top-tier girls. I’ve started finding it more fun to pursue them instead. The cost of a date (?)—the allowance (?)—is only “3,” yet they take such good care of me and make me feel great. They’re also apparently very pleased because I’m well-mannered. And just when I think the price seems unusually high, an AV actress turns up. It’s full of surprises.
Maybe the person the questioner is seeing also found something, just as I did.
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Given the situation, I think there’s a good chance she has another papa, as Seattle suggested. Some girls also occasionally lose motivation for papa-katsu itself.
It probably depends on the person, but I do feel there are a certain number of women who aren’t suited to seeing multiple partners. So it may be worth narrowing things down to the person who’s the best fit, including the terms and compatibility.
Also, even with an allowance of 80,000 yen, depending on how often you meet, the total may still put you at a disadvantage compared with her other papas, even if the amount per meeting is higher than the usual going rate.
You could consider making an offer to someone new, or raising the allowance if you genuinely like her. Personally, though, I don’t think raising the terms in a negative situation is ideal, so I’d make an offer to someone new.
Before joining the club, I sometimes saw just one person, but in my case, it’s easier to maintain a good balance when I’m seeing multiple women. So if you’re not currently seeing multiple partners, you might want to give it a try.
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Judging by the way things are, she definitely has other papas.
She probably has several other papas offering 100,000 yen or more. You’re on the verge of being dropped. Taking a long time to reply is a sign she’s not interested.
I think you should give up and offer dinner to someone else.
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