Tips Apr 18, 2019 13:15

Since there seems to be a lot of discussion about transportation expenses, I’d like to ask a question. It may not be a particularly large number of people, but fortunately, I received offers from nearly five men in one cycle and met with them.

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None of them gave me transportation money before the meal. Only one person gave it to me during the meal, saying he had forgotten. The transportation money was ¥5,000–¥10,000, and when I had to travel a long distance, they gave me an additional amount. Whether I received it when we parted or not, I accepted it gratefully. Since I felt it would be rude, I have never asked about it at the time. I still have some dates arranged after this, but I’m not particularly hoping to receive it in advance, nor do I intend to ask about it. So I have two questions. First, the men naturally give me the transportation money when we part, almost surprisingly so. Is the rule about paying it in advance actually widespread? In Maezawa-san’s answer, they said to leave negative feedback if a man hadn’t given it in advance. But considering this frequency, I feel that quite a lot of men would end up receiving negative feedback—even if the date itself was great and the man was very gentlemanly. Now for my second question and the background. One man I met nearby gave me ¥5,000 in transportation money at the end. When we met a second time, he gave me the same amount, and after we became intimate, it became part of the allowance amount. But even for a date nearby, is it ¥10,000 if he really likes you and ¥5,000 if he feels you’re just so-so? I saw somewhere in an answer that it’s often ¥10,000 if he likes you... So rather than simply feeling disappointed that the amount was small when I met this person a second and third time, I started to worry that perhaps he didn’t actually like me that much. I’d like to hear men’s opinions on the difference in feelings behind giving ¥5,000 versus ¥10,000. The representative says ¥5,000 is the minimum amount, but is it possible for ¥5,000 to be offered from the start even when the man considers you his favorite or his main partner? *Incidentally, I’m still dating the person who gave me ¥5,000, and he seems to like me very much. (Things have also continued for multiple dates with the other men.) I look forward to your answers.
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Maezawa here, answering as well. > Regarding the ¥5,000 you call the minimum amount, are there really men who initially offer that amount even when they consider someone their top favorite? I don’t think so. One reason men prefer to pay afterward is that they want to adjust the amount depending on whether they liked the woman. If they pay upfront, they say they can no longer control that part. In other words, it seems many men pay ¥10,000 if they liked her, and ¥5,000 if they felt she wasn’t quite their type. But even when a man isn’t particularly impressed, he may still be happy to see her again. And after meeting several times, he may even start to feel that she’s more attractive than he thought at first. If you’re still seeing the person who gave you ¥5,000, then perhaps he thought you were only so-so at first, but likes you now. > The men naturally give me transportation money at the end of the date—so naturally that it’s almost surprising. Is the rule about paying upfront actually widespread? “Almost surprisingly naturally”… That’s impressive. I suppose men can reach that point after going on enough dates. As for whether my upfront-payment rule has caught on, I wouldn’t know unless I received feedback. Judging from the exchanges here, it doesn’t seem to have spread very widely. > I don’t strongly insist on receiving it upfront, nor do I intend to ask about it. I see. To explain why the upfront-payment rule was introduced in the first place, I receive messages from women almost every day saying things like: “I didn’t receive transportation money from the man, but I couldn’t bring myself to say anything…” If we just left this unaddressed, it would be a crisis for Universe, wouldn’t it? Not receiving transportation money that was supposed to be paid is essentially fraud. To prevent that, we changed the rule—after much hesitation—because if it’s paid upfront, it can’t be forgotten, and even if it is, there’s a good chance the person will realize it during the date. But even now, I still receive messages from women almost every day saying, “I didn’t receive the transportation money…” It’s disappointing.
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