For the first meeting, I only do dinner unless the woman makes the first move.
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At that time, I tell her the allowance amount and say, “From the next meeting onward, I’ll invite you to a hotel, so please decide how you feel about that.”
As a result, quite a few women say they’d like to have dinner together a few more times first… but I try to cut my losses and turn them down.
Is this policy too inflexible?
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If you’re closer to a B than a C, I think you can still do quite well.
If you’re aiming for closer to an A than a B, I’d suggest keeping the first meeting to dinner only, then bringing up the more serious details on the second meeting.
I don’t recommend dragging it out until a third meeting or beyond. In fact, if that conversation doesn’t come up by the second meeting, it’s basically a lost cause—or rather, you’re playing an entirely different game. Some people may be good at that, but in that case I’d rather just try my luck with ordinary dating, so I tend to avoid women who sign up for a dating club only to play that kind of game.
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Wouldn’t it be scary if someone said, “We’re going to a hotel next time,” after meeting just once—or if the situation were reversed?
I think your sense of what’s normal has become skewed.
If that’s what you’re looking for, you should approach women with dating types C or D.
I don’t understand why you’re approaching someone with dating type B.
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If it’s a B-type arrangement, that’s fine.
For C- or D-type arrangements, I think the man should be the one to make the first move from the very first day.
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Keeping it simple and straightforward is probably best. I think that’s more than enough.
I don’t get that many offers myself, but whenever I’ve felt a difference in chemistry or something seemed off during the first meeting, I’ve met them a second time thinking maybe it was just my imagination—but it’s never gotten any better, lol.
As for cutting off your lingering feelings, I keep telling myself that I should do the same, lol.
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Is this about a Type B?
If she’s Type B, I wouldn’t even bring up the allowance unless she leans more toward Type C. As for an adult relationship (intimate), it can happen naturally on a day when things heat up.
Since you seem to prioritize an adult relationship and it sounds like there’ll likely be one every time you meet going forward, I think that arrangement works for you.
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I don’t think there’s any problem.
That said, some C-type women may be counting on receiving an allowance but feel unable to bring it up themselves.
That’s probably the only situation where the woman might end up feeling dissatisfied.
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I think that’s the ideal way to make an offer.
When someone comes on too strong from the very first day, it can be a bit of a turnoff. If you agree on the allowance and other terms during the first date, it gives her some time to think and makes for a much smoother, more considerate invitation.
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I suppose I am somewhat inflexible.
That said, I think it’s fairly common to set clear guidelines like that.
For example, I don’t meet a woman again unless she invites me. After the first meeting, I only see women who have invited me and whom I also want to see again.
I realize that may seem inflexible, but I find that sticking to this approach keeps things hassle-free.
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I think that’s a very good approach.
Apparently, some women may not be Type A because they’re virgins or have little experience, but still can’t make up their minds right away.
Tell her clearly at the second meeting that you’d like to invite her to an adult relationship (intimate). If she says no, move on to the next person.
That’s better than having her string you along over five dinner-only dates, don’t you think?
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