Couples in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with an age gap of 20 years or more—or even 15 years if there’s a noticeable difference in looks—are clearly being looked at with discomfort, even when they’re eating together and seem to be getting along. Do they really think it’s fine as long as they act confident in public?
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That’s not a normal way of seeing things, is it?
I think they’ve just become desensitized by papa-katsu.
Some girls are putting up with it, while others deliberately numb themselves to it, so it would be gentlemanly and considerate for the older men to be more mindful of that.
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I don’t act conspicuous. I don’t feel comfortable with it.
When we go on dates in my car, I have her sit in the back seat unless we’re out in the suburbs.
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Of course, having dinner with someone who feels that way would be painful for me too. Why not just meet secretly? lol
Actually, even for a secret meeting, wouldn’t it be better if I wore a mask? Ah—better yet, should I just leave the allowance and head home after one minute? lol
What does “dating” even mean anyway? lol If you hate the idea of dating from the start, why come to a dating club at all?
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There’s no problem since you’re the boss and subordinate. Just dress like that on a regular basis（笑）
Even though it’s a date, it’s better to avoid overly elaborate makeup or flashy clothes.
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You’re simply suffering from papa-katsu fever.
Once you step into that world, you end up worrying about it for the rest of your life.
Before joining the club, I never felt anything strange when I saw men and women together.
It’s only club women who worry about where they walk or which areas they go to. If you’ve met someone normally, you don’t think twice about where you go together—even if she’s around 20.
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After I started doing this, I realized that women seem to care less about it than men do. I remember feeling awkward because I couldn’t bring myself to say things like, “Could you walk a little farther away from me?”
I generally try not to have one-on-one meals with female coworkers, but it does happen occasionally. So I don’t think anyone would pay much attention to a man and woman 20 years apart having dinner together.
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I may be one of those people the asker describes as “deliberately numbing themselves,” though.
When I worked part-time in Ginza, having dinner with older gentlemen—in other words, accompanying them—was just part of the job, so I’m used to it. I really enjoyed those dinners.
At the very least, I pay attention to my appearance and posture so I don’t come across as vulgar. My papa (a male supporter) is a handsome, stylish older man, so I’m never embarrassed to be seen with him. If Hidetoshi Nishijima were walking around with a woman 20 years younger, people would probably just think, “Good for him.”
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Personally, I’m totally fine with it—older men, even uncle types, are exactly my type, both in papa-katsu and in my private life!
But since it seems like a lot of people do care about the age difference, private rooms and places like that would probably help☆
I wouldn’t assume it’s papa-katsu just because they’re having a meal together, but if I saw them passing each other at a hotel or buying designer goods for her, I’d be 90% sure it was papa-katsu!
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