My favorite dating partner is very possessive. I’ve heard that people who are extremely controlling are more likely to cheat—what do you all think? I’m really into the mentally fragile, highly possessive type, but I can’t help wondering if she’s seeing a lot of different guys.

You can’t expect a woman at a dating club to limit herself to just one man. After all, hardly any male supporters stick to just one woman either, right? I’m lonely by nature too, so unless a man truly loves and cherishes me, it would be hard for me to commit to just one person. Women who are very possessive may actually like you a lot, but when you don’t make them feel like your top priority, that emptiness leads them to find two or three other male supporters and spread their affection around. If you’re not treating them well, that’s only to be expected.

Since it’s a dating club, I think you should assume that seeing multiple people is the norm… It goes both ways, after all. In a regular relationship outside of a dating club, I might be somewhat possessive, but I would never cheat. So I think it really depends on the person.

First of all, for women at a dating club, seeing other men isn’t the same as what people generally call “cheating.” They worry about things like suddenly being dumped and losing their allowance, or having their allowance unexpectedly reduced. So regardless of whether you try to restrict her, it’s better to assume that a woman you meet here is also seeing other men. If you really want her to focus solely on you, start by continuing to give her an allowance she’s satisfied with for at least a year. The key is whether you can give her a sense of financial security.

When I was dating someone who was mildly menhera, she explained the difference to me: a yandere prioritizes the person they love above all else, while a menhera puts themselves first. At the time, I’d never really thought about that distinction, and I didn’t even know the term “yandere” (or, more accurately, I didn’t understand it correctly). I can’t say whether every menhera person is prone to cheating, but they do tend to be lonely. So if one person isn’t enough to meet their emotional needs, they may be more likely to date other people as well. That was the case with the person I was dating. At first, she had several papas (as well as a boyfriend), then for a while it was just me and her boyfriend, but eventually she had multiple papas again. (I’m no longer involved now.) I’m not sure why you’re attracted to menhera girls, but if you dislike the idea of your partner being possessive and restrictive while also dating multiple people, you may actually be more suited to yandere girls than menhera girls.