I’m a papa-katsu veteran with 18 years of experience—crying.
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One of the strange abilities I’ve developed from doing this work is that I can usually tell whether a man has been divorced and why. I can figure it out within seconds of meeting and talking to him.
Most older men make excuses like, “I was too caught up in work,” “After she gave birth, I couldn’t see my wife as a woman anymore,” “My wife’s sense of money was…” or “I was always irritated because she was inefficient at housework and childcare, even though I was the one…” But it makes me want to reply, “No, that’s not it (^ - ^). I think she just hated your ××-ish side with every fiber of her being (^_^)”
Of course, I’d never actually say it out loud, but can’t you tell pretty easily too?
The men who say things like:
“I do so much for her…”
“Even though I’m the one earning the money and supporting her…”
are usually not particularly dependable anyway, lol.
I want to say, “Could you stop acting like you’re supporting her just because you give her a few hundred thousand yen—or even a million yen—as spending money?”
And the men who don’t even give their wives any personal space at home and leave all the housework and childcare to them seem to be the ones who justify their own cheating, too (lol).
Honestly, most of the papas make me think, “I feel sorry for the wife for marrying someone like this.”
What traits do you think a man has when you feel, “It’s only natural that this person got divorced”? Personal experiences are welcome too.
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18 years is pretty long, I suppose.
But I feel this analysis is missing a twist or two. Could it be that it’s simply long? No, surely not. My apologies.
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I can understand professional papa-katsu women speaking about papa-katsu, but when it comes to divorce, they’re only speculating, so I don’t feel their opinions are particularly on point.
I’d understand opinions from people who have actually been through a divorce or from lawyers who handle divorce mediation, though.
Divorce is a personal matter, and every situation is complicated and different, so I don’t think it can be generalized that broadly.
I’m not interested in other people’s divorces anyway—it makes no difference to me.
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Quite a few of the business owners around me are divorced, but not many of them divorced for the reasons you listed—or rather, I couldn’t tell whether those were actually reasons for the divorce or just complaints.
It’s hard to say since I’ve only heard one side of the story, but when it comes to marriage, I often find myself wondering, “Why did you choose that person in the first place?” Many of them seem to be good judges of character, yet somehow managed to make a major mistake with their first marriage.
This isn’t really related to the main topic, but I had no idea the concept of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) already existed when I was in high school.
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Haha, you really wanted to ask that question, didn’t you?
Eighteen years is a long time♪
In all that time, didn’t you learn anything besides that particular skill?
Sorry if that sounds disrespectful to a professional!
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So “professional papa-katsu” is basically a full-time job now, huh? lol
Even if a woman has fallen out of love with you, having children doesn’t necessarily mean she’ll get divorced.
Conversely, someone may decide to divorce even if she still loves her partner.
Maybe that’s why you’ve been doing papa-katsu for 18 years—you think about things like this all the time.
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Long time no see＼(^o^)／
I’m doing great over here lol. This was kind of funny, so I couldn’t resist answering.
Honestly, questioner, that “skill set” of yours isn’t really anything to brag about. Everyone knows that stuff—it’s just a matter of whether they say it out loud or not lol. Well, you went and said it 😂
Actually, if anything, you’re just finding people to avoid. Wouldn’t it be more impressive if you could recognize the genuinely good ones?
Anyway, it’s better than nothing, so let’s both look out for ourselves and avoid stepping on any landmines.
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There. I wrote about this in a previous column, but a lot of women seem to assume that the reasons for someone’s divorce are automatically something superficial.
Just my personal opinion, but the more someone says, “I can tell,” the more likely they are to be completely wrong.
Would you honestly tell someone the real reason for your divorce if they asked? The more serious the reason, the less likely people are to talk about it. They’d probably just make up some convenient excuse.
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