I’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for about eight years, and I was satisfied with both the people I was seeing and my allowance. Recently, an older friend registered with Universe. I knew she was cuter and more elegant than me, but when I heard that she was receiving about twice the allowance I do, I started feeling pessimistic about my own activities. I understand that this isn’t a world where experience determines everything, and I realize my appearance may be putting me at a disadvantage.
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Do you ever find yourselves comparing yourselves to the people around you?
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Eight years of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? That’s impressive—and way too long.
That senior might still seem fresh and innocent, but after eight years, there’s no way she can keep up that image...
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Wait, isn’t that woman exaggerating or making things up? Maybe I’m just being cynical. I’ll generally trust what I see, but I don’t put much stock in what people only tell me—though of course, it depends on the person.
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I haven’t told anyone that I do this, so I don’t have anyone to compare myself to…
I’ve always been very competitive, so if my friends were doing it too and I started comparing myself to them, I feel like I’d end up thinking, “I don’t want to lose!” That’s why I don’t tell anyone. Of course, I don’t tell anyone how much I receive either. And naturally, I don’t tell anyone about the men I’ve met through the club. There’s really nothing to be gained by talking about it!
Besides, the allowance isn’t everything. Even if your friend is receiving twice as much, she might not be satisfied at all—in fact, she may be putting up with all kinds of things?!
When you look at it that way, you may actually be happier and more satisfied with your current arrangement than your friend is with hers.
I think the person who feels happy themselves is the one who’s able to have the better relationship.
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I’m dating women who are so exceptionally cute or beautiful that they seem like they’re at the top of the food chain, so I find myself thinking, “There can’t be any papas dating women better than mine.” My top three in particular are on another level.
> “There can’t be any papas dating women better than mine.”
You’re comparing them, aren’t you…?
I also compare the amounts of allowance I give them, since I try to offer amounts that other generous papas probably wouldn’t be able to match.
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As I mentioned in another answer, I compare allowance amounts because I use them as a reference for the going rate.
The amount of the allowance also depends on how the man thinks, so I don’t think it’s necessarily something to feel discouraged about.
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To be honest, if I had a close friend who was also active in a dating club, I think I’d end up comparing myself to her too (´；ω；｀)
Maybe it’s easier not having any friends in the same club scene.
But I think the reason you’ve been able to keep this going for so long is because you’re a beautiful woman♪
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I’m a man, so if I had to compare myself to others, I suppose it would be by the allowance amount. But there’s no point in comparing, so I’ve decided not to worry about it. I’m simply seeing a woman who’s agreed to be with me.
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