It’s not flashy at all.
I think people who blow money at hostess clubs or upscale lounges are much more “flashy.”
If I were flashy, I’d always be going to expensive restaurants, but I only go to casual set-meal places. I love Sukiya and Saizeriya, and since Mos Burger is expensive, I only go to McDonald’s. Starbucks is completely out of the question. It’s ridiculously expensive and loaded with calories, so I wouldn’t go even if you paid me. I don’t shop at convenience stores either—they’re way too expensive.
My suits are from Aoyama or Haruyama, my shoes cost just over ¥20,000 at most, and I drive a Japanese car. I live in a small place, too. Basically, it just comes down to where you choose to spend your money.
I live alone, but I’ve never felt lonely. If anything, I prefer being by myself. I have a lot of friends, but I still like being alone.
I grew up having my seniors treat me, so treating my juniors and girls is just second nature to me. I can’t believe people split the bill on dates.
For me, an allowance under ¥100,000 is out of the question—I’d feel it was beneath my pride. My monthly partners average over ¥150,000 per pay-per-meeting allowance, so honestly, giving ¥100,000 makes me feel pretty bad.
I’m the type who thinks it would be cowardly not to give money when I have plenty of it. I suppose it’s kind of a fair-trade mentality. I also think I have a stronger sense of respect for women than most men do. I’m incredibly grateful. I always feel sincerely thankful that they’re willing to spend time with someone like me. PJ girls are goddesses to me.
No one really knows the truth—and the person in question may not even know it themselves—so I don’t think there’s much point in trying to determine what it feels like.
If you’re a psychologist and want to write a paper, I suggest requesting individual interviews.
That said, trying to speculate about one particular man’s thoughts and apply them to everyone is far too simplistic. It’s also a crude approach to infer why people pursue relationships through a dating club based solely on how they spend their money. So it wouldn’t hold up as an academic paper. What you’re doing is nothing more than baseless guesswork and idle speculation.
For example, I have a clear, different reason for pursuing relationships through a dating club.
If by “援助交際” you mean what is commonly called enko—the buying and selling of sex—then I see the relationship I have through a dating club as being fundamentally different from that.
I also believe that a relationship is simply a relationship, not a job.
