As I mentioned in my answer to your previous question, that range is really within the margin of error, so I think it’s better to judge based on other factors.
That said, I do take advantage of that margin of error myself.
As for the secret to making an arrangement last, I think it varies from person to person, but in my case, it’s when they make me develop feelings for them (the opposite of Mr. Makeotoko). I don’t fall genuinely in love, but I prefer being the one doing the chasing.
I can’t quite put it into words. It’s difficult.
Even with a papa (a male supporter) who offers 5 for an adult relationship (intimate), if I got my period on the day we had plans and could only do dinner, but he still gave me the 5, I’d definitely continue seeing him. It shows that he values me.
On the other hand, even if it’s 10 pay-per-meeting, if he casually reschedules when I get my period and doesn’t give me a single yen in allowance, my total income would be the same as with the papa above. Since I’m not being valued, I might as well cut ties.
I think having to put yourself through a certain amount physically for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—meaning an adult relationship (intimate)—is unavoidable, but I don’t want anyone to wear themselves down emotionally.
The key to continuing probably depends on the papa. For example, if I were the other person, I’d be uncomfortable if she genuinely fell in love with me, but I would want her to like me.
I’m the type to keep some distance from women, so even if they came to like me, I wouldn’t get the wrong idea and start acting like their boyfriend. In fact, I’d increase their allowance and make sure we continued seeing each other. On the other hand, if we stayed too distant, I’d lose interest. Sorry, I know that’s complicated.
Update:
I’m adding this after reading Early’s answer.
Honestly, I’d like to fall in love with a woman too. Or rather, I’d like to genuinely fall in love. But I can’t seem to. Maybe I’m somewhat detached, or maybe when there’s a large age gap, I start wanting to protect her, so romantic feelings don’t develop. Still, I’m looking for someone I can genuinely fall in love with. Sorry if that sounds creepy.
There haven’t been any bad dates when the allowance was 80,000–100,000 yen.
I take it you mean that with 50,000–70,000 yen, things sometimes develop into a relationship depending on the person, and sometimes they don’t.
It’s great that you’re enjoying a comfortable and fulfilling club life.
I think the key to maintaining a long-term relationship is to pay close attention to what the man you’re seeing is looking for from you.
First of all, I’m not even sure which question you’re referring to. But if it’s this one:
https://universe-club.jp/help/member/detail/12554
then I have to wonder whether you actually understood the respondent’s answer. The point was that whether two people are compatible has nothing to do with the allowance, so why are you interpreting it in terms of the allowance? I think that bias itself is at the heart of the problem.
As for the secret to making something last: wanting to see the other person and enjoying the time you spend together. That’s all there is to it. You can’t build something lasting by covering everything up with lies.
If you think you can get what you want by perfecting the art of lying, isn’t that because you live in a world where you’re deceived by lies?
Do you really want to keep living in that world? Wouldn’t it be faster to change that first?
Taro
