Everyone has different backgrounds and ways of thinking, so I believe it’s about being involved with someone you can both be comfortable with and avoid putting unnecessary pressure on each other—in other words, a stress-free relationship.
Whenever this topic comes up, an allowance of 50,000 yen is generally treated as the going rate or benchmark, and I use that as a reference too.
I’ve explained the details in a previous comment, so I’ll skip them here, but in my case, I simply don’t have that much time to spare. So I offer the girls I’m seriously involved with, or those I really like after the first meeting, more than the going rate—around 70,000 to 100,000 yen on average, I suppose.
I believe the allowance is also important for maintaining the relationship, which is why I do that.
Also, I wanted to appear gentlemanly as a relatively new respondent, so I didn’t mention this before, but I do think it looks cooler to offer more than the going rate（笑）
(I’m actually the one most concerned about the going rate, which is kind of uncool（笑）)
Honestly, the difference is only a few tens of thousands of yen, so at my allowance level it has no real financial impact. If I paid what Maké-Otoko, the other respondents, or the female respondents’ papas pay, I’d go broke, so I can’t go that far.
Finding a great girl is a big part of it, but thanks to that, I can also work harder. Since I want to reward her in return, increasing the allowance or giving gifts feels perfectly natural to me.
This may be completely different, but I also increase the salaries and give generous bonuses to employees who work hard and make valuable contributions. Fundamentally, I see the two things as being the same.
Sorry for the long answer, but I hope you both work toward a stress-free relationship!
Male members should just move on to the next person if the terms don’t work out. Once you pay the introduction fee, you’re guaranteed to meet someone, and whether the terms and chemistry are a good fit is a matter of probability—if you meet enough people, you’re bound to find a good match eventually. That’s the decisive difference compared with female members. And if a male member has the financial means, it’s far more advantageous to spend the money on introduction fees rather than allowances. From a man’s economic perspective, which is clearly the better deal: meeting a woman who charges 10 per pay-per-meeting arrangement ten times, or making ten offers and finding a woman who charges 5 per meeting?
Female members don’t need financial resources, but if they don’t receive any offers, nothing can even get started. And even when they do receive offers, not all of the people are desirable, so it comes down to probability. With any probability-based game, the only way to improve your odds is to increase the number of attempts—but that’s precisely what female members can’t solve with money, which is what makes their situation so difficult.
I guess this was a class for people who didn’t understand that. If so, I’m clearly not wanted here. Excuse me.
Poop Taro
It really depends on the person.
The more money you receive, the more pressure you feel, and the more stressful it can be (which seems to be the case for you too).
The person giving the money feels that pressure as well.
Sometimes, keeping the money involved to a minimum allows both people to feel freer.
In particular, the women that Makeo-san wrote about—the extremely popular “black” women (I don’t think he meant a class or ranking)—aren’t that fixated on their allowance.
After all, women can relieve their stress more comfortably with someone who isn’t involved with money…
If you receive a lot through pay-per-meeting or a monthly arrangement, you need an outlet for that.
Being treated as a nobody with a 5? That’s scary, scary...
At this point, our values are just completely incompatible. I’m starting to feel nervous about writing columns too, lol.
I’m not looking for someone to put up with some dissatisfaction and force themselves to make it work, so I keep things pay-per-meeting at ¥50,000 and enjoy a relaxed, stress-free relationship.
P.S.
It just occurred to me: Do people who call others “mobs” really think they themselves aren’t one? From someone else’s perspective, both you and I are just mobs.
