I’ll answer as Maezawa as well.
> Does the fact that male members have their profiles set to public mean that they’re looking for new encounters?
That’s difficult to say.
Some women may suddenly break things off, after all.
Some men date multiple women for that reason, while others stay involved with just one person at a time but keep their options open in case something happens.
So only the person himself knows his true intentions.
Besides, if you were able to view the man’s profile, that means you’re registered on the site too.
This may sound a little cold, but it does seem like what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.
Still, I don’t think you need to take it so hard.
What matters most is how he treats you when you’re together. If he’s kind to you, I think you should simply continue seeing him.
He may just be keeping his options open.
Even if you can’t know the truth, if you’re having a good relationship, I think that’s what matters.
I hope things continue to go well for both of you.
I’m Saito, a columnist. ♪
I completely understand how you feel.
A long time ago, I once went out for dinner in a group of four. The woman who was with the other man was a woman I had met through a dating club and really liked. When I thought about her being intimate with my male friend afterward at the same hotel, I felt absolutely tormented.
(I don’t feel anything about it anymore, though.)
Men can be the same way, too:
“Please date only me.”
“You said I was the only one—so why is your profile being updated?”
I think it may help to see it as having experienced the situation from the other side as well.
You shouldn’t let yourself fall seriously in love, but I think it’s better to understand this as a place where you can enjoy that feeling of almost falling seriously in love.
It may sound harsh, but why not end things quickly and try clicking “You seem wonderful” for someone else?
It’s good practice for “moving on quickly.”
That said, if there’s no particular harm, I don’t think you necessarily need to end things.
As for the question, “Do you want to meet someone new?”
I think many of the men who sign up here are naturally very curious. And although I’m sure the questioner is a wonderful woman too, perhaps he wants to look at the many other wonderful women out there with an open and ambitious mind.
Maybe he also genuinely wants to learn more about the world of dating clubs.
As an aside, I made my profile public too.
(I lowered things like my annual income.)
Getting lots of “You seem wonderful” responses doesn’t feel bad at all.
The website being so slow was much more unpleasant, though. Haha.
When I receive an offer from a woman I had been curious about, I briefly think, “Should I make an offer?”
But then I remember that she’s someone I ended up not making an offer to despite being interested, so I still haven’t taken that step.
Still, it’s something unfamiliar to me, so I hope someone will make an offer and let me report back.
