A female member sent me an “interested” mark. Looking at her profile, it says she can picture dating men up to their 40s, but I’m in my 50s. I’ll ask the staff whether someone in their 50s would really be okay, but I have a question for the female members here.
Do you ever send an “interested” mark to a man who doesn’t meet the terms you’re looking for?
What are you thinking or feeling when you send one in that situation?
Is it more like you’re willing to overlook a few mismatches if you think he might make an offer?
Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
When women come in for their interview, they often have certain expectations, such as wanting to meet a handsome man, someone kind, or someone not too much older than them.
However, once they register and realize that they aren’t receiving many offers, their outlook may change. If focusing on age is keeping offers from coming in, they may decide to be more flexible and meet someone first.
Alternatively, they might receive their first offer from a man in his 50s and find that meeting him was perfectly fine.
In this way, women’s preferences can change over time.
That said, they may not realize—or may have forgotten—that what they said during the interview, such as preferring men in their 30s or under 40, was included in their profile.
With that in mind, I think she may now be open to men in their 50s as well.
If you’d like to meet her, I think you should go ahead and send her an offer.
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I’m Nana Ayase☆
There are probably various ways of deciding who to send a “You’re wonderful” to, but since it says up to your 40s and you mentioned that you’re in your 50s, it’s possible you’re sending it to every male member. It might be worth asking the staff once.
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Even if you don’t quite meet her terms, she’ll probably still tap “Sounds nice.”
To make it easier for her to choose, clearly mention your hobbies, the kinds of dates you enjoy, and any distinctive details. That way, she can find someone who shares her interests or enjoys the same kinds of dates as you. It’s surprisingly convenient since it saves her the trouble of meeting just to find out.
—Paper Airplane
Also, it seems she doesn’t remember every detail of what was discussed during the interview.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There was a clue in Marika’s answer. What you’re referring to is a comment from the club. I think it’s normal for women not to know that it’s written there.
Alternatively, perhaps her options broadened after she actually started participating.
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As I mentioned before, I only pressed “Sounds great” for people I had carefully selected because we shared the same interests.
Some people seem to press it for anyone and everyone.
At this point, there’s no way to know which type the person who pressed it is.
Was it going to be a while before comments become available?
I think it would be fine to send an offer asking, “I’m in my 50s—is that okay?” They may not even remember writing that they’re looking for someone up to their 40s.
Marika
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