What do you think about the amount of support changing depending on how much tuition I have to pay?
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I attended university using an existing scholarship program.
Two years ago, a new national tuition support program for high school students was introduced, allowing students from tax-exempt households and similar backgrounds to have anywhere from half to the full amount of their tuition reduced, depending on their household income. My family was poor too, so I was able to get about half of my tuition waived.
I told my papa (a male supporter), who doesn’t give me money every time we meet but gives me a larger amount for living expenses once every few months. He said that since my tuition had been reduced, he would reduce my allowance by tens of thousands of yen as well...
What I do for him when we meet hasn’t changed, so I feel like he could have left the amount as it was.
This is Kida, the representative.
That’s tough. I always thought repaying student loans was just an excuse to ask for an allowance, but it turns out some people really are in that situation.
And I think it’s wonderful that you’re honest about it. Someone as wonderful as you shouldn’t be getting lowballed.
If you’re upset, then take something other than money from him. College isn’t the only place you can learn, you know?
These days, experiences are valued more highly than material things, so you should ask your papa for some amazing experiences.
If that’s difficult, let’s try to make your relationship with him an equal one again. Regardless of age, a papa and his baby are equals. One person can’t make all the decisions.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Depending on how you phrased it, he may have taken it positively—as in, “I don’t really need help with tuition anymore♡” …but that doesn’t change the fact that your papa is cheap.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
If your papa is lowering your allowance, there’s a good chance he’s thinking that ending things would be fine.
That’s just my guess, though…
I think you should keep an eye on the situation and prepare by looking for another papa, just in case.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Personally, it surprises me that anyone would even think about lowering the allowance. If it came to that, I’d rather end the arrangement.
There are all kinds of people in the world.
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I’m in Seattle.
He was just cheap and broke, and wanted to haggle.
If you’re close, that wouldn’t happen regardless of the reason. If you’re not, though, isn’t something better than nothing?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
That man had actually been thinking about cutting back in the first place.
He simply found a convenient excuse to do so.
Most papas don’t know things like that, so you probably said more than you needed to.
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