After receiving an offer and meeting him, we agreed on the terms via LINE. Just to be safe, I told him that I wanted him to use a condom, but he replied that he had never used one before. Are there many male members who don't use them?
I plan to tell him again that I want him to use one, but just thinking that he may not have used condoms with other women scares me.
Representative Kida here.
There probably aren’t many male members who openly admit that they don’t use condoms.
That papa (a male supporter) has already spent a lot of time and money taking you out to dinner and discussing the terms of the arrangement, right?
Dropping the bombshell that he’s never used a condom is pretty risky.
Still, maybe he’s a decent person for telling you honestly before meeting.
Blocking that papa is easy, but isn’t this your chance to teach him a little about safe sex?
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Using a condom is a given. If you have even the slightest doubts, you should stop, because you’re bound to regret it. If he cares about you even a little, he should take steps to ease your concerns.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
There are always some men who want to go without protection, whether they’re club members or not.
Anyone who says things like, “I’ve never used one,” is far too risky. If he won’t use protection, I don’t think you should pursue a relationship with him.
And it’s not just about condoms—make sure you clearly communicate and agree on anything you’re not comfortable with from the start. Otherwise, things can gradually go further than you intended, so please be careful.
Personally, I use protection to protect myself, of course.
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Even if he offers me ¥100,000 per meeting, I can’t have unprotected sex with a man who has unprotected sex with lots of different women. I was scared he might give me an STI.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> Are there many male members who don’t use one?
This isn’t limited to members.
I don’t think there are many men who refuse to use one, but I do think there are many men who would prefer not to if possible.
> I’m thinking of telling him again that I want him to use one, but just imagining that he may not be using one with other women scares me.
If you felt even a little scared, I think you should trust that instinct and turn him down.
If you go against your intuition and then end up contracting an STI, I feel you may regret it even more.
On the other hand, if it were a man you had met many times and you felt you could trust him, then even if you did happen to get sick, you might be able to discuss it with him afterward, saying something like, “Let’s be more careful from now on. Let’s use protection.”
That said, if you’re doing this because you’re struggling financially, you don’t have to be gentle about it by simply saying you’d like him to use one.
You can be firm and say:
“I absolutely can’t do it without one. What are you going to do?”
If he says he can’t accept that, then unfortunately, it may be best to end things there.
Don’t agree to anything you’re not comfortable with. That’s the best course of action.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I imagine there are quite a few men who prefer going without protection, but normally, if you ask them to use a condom, they’ll do so.
A man who gets defensive and says he’s never used one, like in this case, is dangerous even if you were to agree later on. I think it’s best to end things with him.
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I’m in Seattle.
That’s not the case.
If taking the pill feels like too much hassle, or the amount isn’t worth the risk, renegotiate the terms and turn him down.
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