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Dec 26, 2021 12:03
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I’m Kida, the guy in charge here.
So, is it wrong for some old guy to call a woman in her twenties naïve and inexperienced?
Yeah, it is. At work, at home, and at school, older men are treated as the ones in charge—and apparently they’re even allowed to lecture women about the length of their skirts. But in the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) world, you’re equals. There’s no “old guy” or “kid” hierarchy.
If some old guy starts preaching at you, just leave half the meal bill on the table and walk out.
I’m proud of you. Hitomin, the emperor of the paid social-drinking scene, would probably do exactly that, wouldn’t she?
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
I don’t think it’s really appropriate to criticize people using such complicated language, though…
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I understand your opinions: you don’t like older men, and there aren’t any women around you who do.
If you don’t like papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you can simply stop. No one’s forcing you to do it.
There are plenty of rare women who do like older men and are happy to see us, so we’re doing just fine.
I don’t want to date someone mean-spirited enough to use disrespectful terms like “old geezer” or “senior citizen.”
So please, leave.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
There’s no doubt that they’re a rare find. But just because someone isn’t familiar with rare types of people doesn’t mean they deserve to be criticized as naive or sheltered.
That said, dating clubs are a fantasy, so I don’t think it’s something to get that angry about… If you’ve actually been harmed in some way, I’d appreciate it if you could share the details here.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
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I’m Dai, a male member.
At least when it comes to dating clubs, the women who succeed are the minority.
So what if you’re part of the majority?
Being criticized by some older guy from a dating club shouldn’t bother you, should it?
Other
They’re probably not criticizing the vast majority who don’t fall in love just because they want to justify the small minority who occasionally fall deeply in love—or perhaps because they want to dream or fool themselves.
If it’s just a “Don’t say things like that!” kind of reaction, keep a boundary and let it go.
Akari
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
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I give up....
I’m too stupid to understand what the questioner is trying to say.
—A loser guy
Age: Private
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Doesn’t it depend on the context? It’s hard to answer when you ask such a broad question.