I feel uncomfortable when everyone’s attitude changes as soon as I mention my university. I attend a prestigious university. Since I’m currently a student, people usually ask which university I go to, but it’s tiring to play guessing games or be vague about it (once someone asks, they keep asking repeatedly), so I just answer honestly when asked.
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Once I tell them, it seems like the way they see me suddenly changes. They say things like, “I’ve really started to like you!” or, during conversations, “You’re smart, so I’m sure you understand, but…” and “I can see why you attend ○○ University.” Apparently, the club staff’s comments about me also mention and praise my educational background.
Is academic background really that important?
Joe here.
I think academic credentials are still important in this country, despite what people may say. Probably not as much as in South Korea, though. I went to a prestigious private school from elementary through high school, so whenever we get together for reunions, everyone around me seems to have some impressive—or actually important—title. And although I haven’t asked outright, they also seem to earn pretty high incomes.
But as Mac says, if you don’t develop something to offer besides the name of your university, you’ll end up like me (haha), with nothing to brag about except, “I went to ○○ High School!” So be careful out there!
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I’m Nana Ayase♡
I think there are a lot of girls who can do nothing but study. They work desperately to get into college, but they don’t have any dreams. I can’t help wondering what they plan to do for a living after graduation.
That doesn’t sound fun, does it? Please find a dream outside of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here—I’ll answer this too.
> Is educational background really that important?
People judge others based on what they can see.
That might be their:
- Face
- Figure
- Intelligence
- Occupation
- Bust size
I understand why the person asking this would feel that way, and I think most people can relate.
For example, women with large breasts often dislike being commented on. One woman even came to her interview wearing a chest binder.
I think the feeling is that they don’t want someone who only focuses on their breasts. But in the beginning, people may focus on just one aspect of you. In the end, whether the relationship continues depends on whether they come to like you as a person.
Once you start thinking that way, you’ll realize that your educational background is simply one part of who you are, and that few people view it completely separately from everything else.
Ultimately, I think you’ll come to understand that what really matters is your overall character and ability as a person.
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I’m BB7.
Men who change their attitude that drastically are only that shallow.
Someone highly educated and naturally sharp can sometimes be interesting to talk to, but there are plenty of women who are highly educated yet utterly boring.
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Some men do care about titles and status. They probably also like being able to say, “I slept with someone like her.”
But that alone usually makes it a one-time thing, doesn’t it? For it to continue long-term, other factors matter more—like enjoying your conversations together or having good physical chemistry, to the point where your education and titles no longer matter.
I hope you find a papa (a male supporter) you can continue seeing, where your university soon becomes completely irrelevant.
Marika
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I’m Dai, a male member.
People simply like what they like.
If that’s mentioned in the staff’s comments, then people who are attracted to educational background are probably gravitating toward you.
It’s like men who are into flight attendants being drawn to a flight attendant.
Rather than seeing it as something negative, I think you should treat it as a selling point.
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This is Kida, the representative.
Don’t get the wrong idea. It’s your parents who are being complimented. I’m only interested in getting you undressed, but since you act like you want me to ask, I humor you by asking which university you attend—and then you go and throw out some pointless term like “former Imperial University.”
You want to be valued for who you are, not for your university or your parents, right? Like Makku-san says, if there were anything else worth complimenting, we wouldn’t have such a hard time.
Maybe you should say something like:
“I worked incredibly hard to get into the University of Tokyo back then. Now, I’m working incredibly hard as a woman standing here in front of you.”
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I’m Aya, a female member.
An academic background is like the last refuge people turn to when they have nothing else to rely on. Since I’m not exactly the brightest, I decided to lean on my education and went to a reasonably good university.
I was told about it quite a bit at first too—whether it was mentioned in my club profile comments. But honestly, I never paid much attention to it.
For a papa, it’s just a conversation starter. It’s probably about as unusual as saying, “I’m from Fukue Island in Nagasaki, the same place as Haruna Kawaguchi.” It gives you something to chat about, right? lol
That said, be careful with papas who get unusually fixated on your academic background “alone.” They may be the type who gets a kick out of—or wants to brag about—“having been with a female university student from such-and-such school.” They won’t really see you as an individual.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t think it’s important.
But apparently, a lot of people are into that kind of thing. At one dating club, women’s profiles actually say things like “graduated from a four-year university” or “graduated from a prestigious university” (lol). Honestly, I found it kind of creepy.
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