Tips
Dec 23, 2021 03:25
This content is machine-translated.
What do you think of this man from both a male and female perspective?
I’m a woman considering joining Universe. Are Tokyo’s older male members really all like this? If so, I don’t want to join.
〇Disappointing points
① I had heard from the staff beforehand that she had been matched many times, but when I casually asked her about it, she said, “I’ve only ever met one person.” It was painful to be lied to. However, I’ve chosen to interpret it as meaning that lying can be a form of kindness, and that pretending not to notice a lie can be kindness too.
② Her profile said that she enjoys cooking, so I told her, “It’s always been my dream to have someone bring a homemade lunch on a date.” She casually replied, “I can only make simple things. If it’s something simple, you can make it yourself, right?” and my small dream was shattered.
③ She had what looked like a small pimple on her cheek. (Within an acceptable range.)
④ Her hands were sticky. (Within an acceptable range. (;'∀'))
⑤ She appeared to have graduated from university, but she didn’t know which historical period the year 1700 belonged to. (;'∀')
⑥ She said she was going to Fukuoka on business by bullet train. (Wouldn’t you take a plane??? )
⑦ During the three hours we were together, she didn’t go to the restroom even once. What kind of body does she have? ((((;゚Д゚)))) *shudders*
⑧ Apparently speaking from someone else’s experience, she told me that, as a risk hedge, it’s better to have several papas (male supporters) rather than just one. I’m the type to devote myself completely once I’ve made up my mind, so I fully understood the logic, but it was painful to hear.
〇Good points
① She doesn’t speak badly about people and tends to interpret things in a positive way.
② Her posture was so straight that it looked tiring, so I told her to relax.
③ It was our first face-to-face date, but even though she was short on time, she joined me for karaoke after dinner. She was fun and easygoing.
④ Without me even asking, she casually shared stories about her background. It was nice that she was frank and didn’t put up walls.
⑤ I don’t know whether she was simply accommodating me, but she was very easy to talk to.
⑥ When we left the restaurant, it was raining, and she quickly held up an umbrella for me.
〇Overall impression
I’d like to continue seeing her for a long time.
We’ve already agreed to meet again. Apparently, she isn’t free on weekends until October, so our next meeting may be in October.
I caught a glimpse of her photo and fell in love at first sight, which led me to join the Black membership tier, so I’m glad I got to meet her in person.
Thank you to Mr. Kure and all the staff.
7 answers
木田(社長)
Male
Send a reverse offer to this responder
👨 Male
Other
This is Representative Kida:
He pretends not to notice even when someone lies to him.
He doesn’t mind even when his modest dream of bringing a homemade lunch on a date is crushed.
His hands aren’t sticky.
He can instantly answer that 1700 was during the Edo period.
He knows you can fly to Fukuoka.
He goes to the restroom regularly.
And you’re going to see each other again.
He sounds like a really great guy.
I’d date him myself.
You can tell in one second that this older guy is the kind of research-oriented person who graduated from the University of Tokyo’s graduate school and has a PhD, but whose people skills are at an elementary-school level, right?
He’s also generous enough to pay a ¥300,000 membership fee after falling in love at first sight.
Could you ask for anyone better to make your papa (a male supporter)?
The men answering questions on the Q&A site probably couldn’t get away with pretending, but this guy has a clear set of rules for how he behaves. You just need to work backward from those and plan your dates accordingly.
You don’t need to come to Universe just yet. Go learn a little about men through an app first.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
If you tend to worry about every little detail, a dating club probably isn’t for you—whether you’re a man or a woman.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I’m not entirely sure what part bothers you.
What people can and can’t tolerate varies from person to person, so if you feel it would be too much for you, it’s best not to get involved.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
I think it would be better if you explained specifically what you disliked about it. If you mean everything, then it just happens that Universe makes that information public, but at other agencies, I imagine the staff discuss similar things internally.
On dating sites, there’s also a possibility that such information has been posted somewhere. In fact, on dating sites, it seems that people sometimes even post a lot of lies.
Also, freedom of thought is recognized in Japan. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Whether they actually write them down or not is another matter, but the people around you now may be analyzing you in the same way. Men you dated in the past may have done so too.
On the other hand, if you don’t like men who think that way, you simply don’t have to date them.
There are all kinds of men, so not everyone is like this. Still, I hope you can grow to accept the fact that there are many different kinds of people in the world.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m in Seattle.
The emojis and the part about the packed lunch in option ② are a little creepy, but I guess they’re still within the acceptable range.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
Then don’t join.
Some parts may seem a little questionable, but he’s probably just writing his honest feelings in the survey.
It feels like a very Universe Club–style survey—one that doesn’t hide the less convenient parts either, haha.
Since you can casually write things like “old-guy members,” I actually wouldn’t want you to join as a male member.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Then maybe I just shouldn’t join…
It might all be like this anyway…
Paper Airplane