I keep spending money on messages on a certain site, but no one ever shows up when we arrange to mee...

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I keep spending money on messages on a certain site, but no one ever shows up when we arrange to meet—I’m always left waiting. Could they be paid shills working for the site? They also send me a lot of suggestive photos.

木田 · Answer

This is Kida, the site representative.

By “a certain site,” do you mean Happy Mail, PCMAX, Wakuwaku Mail, or something like Digidigi Cafe?

If they’re sending you sexy photos, it’s only natural that it costs money.

Paying a paid responder is essentially the same as paying for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

If it gets your heart racing and makes every day more enjoyable, go ahead and support Wakuwaku.

Fuu · Answer

I’m Fuu, a column writer.

As I’ve written in my columns, when I was younger, I was also scammed on dating sites. I paid to send messages but never actually met anyone—or, when I did, they turned out to be people from the adult entertainment industry.

I’ve also heard from someone who worked as a paid shill on a dating site. Apparently, the more messages they exchanged and the more money they got users to spend, the higher their commission was.

Avoid shady dating sites and try a matching app or a dating club instead.

With matching apps:
・You don’t know what the other person is really like  
・It’s a sink-or-swim, one-on-one experience  
But they’re inexpensive.

With dating clubs:
・Both men and women are interviewed, so a basic level of character is assured  
・They arrange everything for you until you meet

You’ll be amazed by how easy it is to have a quality encounter.

あや · Answer

I’m Aya, a female member.

For someone like you, I’d recommend a dating club. Whether things continue after you meet depends on your communication skills and financial means, but I think it’s more worthwhile than paying to interact with women who aren’t real.

前澤 · Answer

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.

I think this is pretty common on dating sites.

I’ve heard that quite a few sites are 100% fake profiles.

カズ · Answer

I’m Kazu, a male member.

Are you sure she isn’t a fake profile on a dating site?

I didn’t want to deal with that kind of hassle, so I joined a dating club instead.

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