When the meeting spot is an upscale hotel, I assume we’ll be dining at one of the hotel’s restaurants, but that usually isn’t the case. I’m a Nagoya PJ, so Marriott is the one I get most often. Sometimes we do eat at the Marriott, but about 60% of the time we go somewhere else. Once, we took the elevator straight down and walked about 7–8 minutes from Nagoya Station to the actual destination, lol. Another common option is going to a restaurant in the Towers.
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I can understand choosing a hotel as the meeting spot because it’s easy to find, but if we’re going to walk somewhere, wouldn’t it make more sense to meet in front of the restaurant? Why do men go out of their way to designate a nice hotel as the meeting place?
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I’m sick of Marriott’s overpriced, lousy restaurants.
But having the staff tell you the restaurant’s address every single time is a hassle too, right?
When someone else is treating you, don’t complain. If you have a problem with it, pay for the meal yourself.
That “walking seven or eight minutes is a waste” mindset is one of the worst things about women who call themselves PJs.
Ten minutes of talking while walking and ten minutes of talking in a restaurant feel completely different—in terms of eye contact, tension, and personal space. That’s where the story begins.
PJs are modern-day Cinderellas, so you can’t switch from a pumpkin carriage to a taxi just because it’s inconvenient.
Somehow, I actually put that pretty well.
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I’m Nana Ayase ☆
They say to meet at a hotel, but then it turns out to be a completely different izakaya（笑）
It’s fine, but I really wish they’d stop making us walk around, right? I end up going somewhere else about 30% of the time too.
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I usually meet at Bic Camera by the Taiko-dori Exit, or go straight to the restaurant.
Women are usually late, so I tend to choose Bic Camera lol
A losing guy
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I’ve never met anyone at a Marriott myself. I’m not a fan of high floors…
For beginners at a dating club, meeting at a hotel is probably the safest, most straightforward option.
Men who know how to escort a PJ in a way she admires are simply used to that kind of encounter.
By the way, it doesn’t affect the allowance amount or whether he gives you gifts.
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I’m Joe.
I usually meet at a hotel lobby. I prioritize hotels that are easy to get to and have spacious lobbies. I generally avoid eating at the hotel itself because many hotel restaurants are expensive and not very good.
If we need to go somewhere else, my rule is that I’ll walk if it’s within five minutes; anything farther means taking a taxi. Another reason I choose hotel lobbies is that taxis are easier to find there. That said, if it’s within five minutes, I’m willing to walk, so I may need to take that into consideration. I’ll rethink it.
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You won’t know unless you ask that papa, so why not just ask him directly?
My guess is that he assumes it’ll be easier for you to find the meeting spot without getting lost. Something along those lines, maybe?
If you don’t like it, you could simply tell him, “I’m fine with meeting directly at the restaurant.”
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think men like that probably have the fixed idea that dating clubs are places where you meet in a hotel lobby.
Personally, I can’t help feeling sorry for people who are so inflexible in their thinking. That said, there are industries where conservative people like that are actually better suited.
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