Do you think it’s okay to ask about the budget for a Christmas present?
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Whenever I see my papa, he asks me what I want.
There are lots of things I’d like, but honestly, it depends on the budget (lol).
Still, I feel like asking, “What’s the budget?” would ruin the magic, so I haven’t been able to bring it up.
Financially, he can afford to buy me pretty much anything. He gives me an extremely generous allowance every time we meet, too.
But I’m worried that if I ask for something too expensive, he might lose interest. On the other hand, would cosmetics or accessories costing around ¥50,000 feel a little underwhelming for the occasion?
I’m struggling to figure out what would be a reasonable amount.
For my birthday, my papa gave me a ¥300,000 bag, even though I didn’t ask for anything.
So maybe that’s roughly the budget he has in mind?
But since the birthday gift was something he chose himself, would he think I was greedy and lose interest if I asked for something in that price range?
Personally, rather than receiving one expensive gift, I’d prefer a steady monthly allowance over the long term. I’d rather have cash than things.
I know I’m overthinking this, but it almost feels like my papa and I are engaged in some kind of psychological battle at this point (lol).
What should I do??
This is Kida, the representative.
Whether it’s the government, companies, or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), everyone’s busy securing their budgets.
I don’t think it’s a good idea to ask about his budget. A budget is something you win for yourself, after all.
It might be a bit bold, but why not honestly tell him that you’d prefer cash?
“I have a dream. Someday, I’d love to give you a wonderful trip as a token of my appreciation. But it wouldn’t mean as much if I paid for it with money I received from you rather than money I worked hard to earn myself.
I want to start my own business in the ○○ field someday. So, if you don’t mind, I’d like cash for my Christmas present instead of an expensive bag or accessories. I want to put it toward my dream, work hard, and earn the money myself.”
Does that sound unnatural?
It probably isn’t that different from how you really feel, and I think your papa (a male supporter) would be happy to hear it.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If he gave you a ¥300,000 bag for your birthday, then matching that general price range should be a safe bet.
You really don’t understand even that?
Saying that a ¥50,000 gift doesn’t create the right mood just makes you sound like one of those women on Twitter who flaunt stacks of cash to show off.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
> He asks me, “What would you like?” every time we meet.
> Personally, I’d rather have cash than things.
Based on those two points, I think you could simply avoid asking for anything and say, “I’m happy just knowing how you feel, so I don’t need anything♡”
If he still insists, and you’d like, say, for example, “I want something that will always remind me of you, so maybe matching accessories…” Then he might respond, “Matching accessories would be difficult, so why don’t you choose something you like?”
If you let me know what else you’d like, I’d be happy to think it over with you too lol
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This is Joe.
I think that sounds fine. That said, don’t you think cash is a little out of place as a Christmas present?
If, as a child, you’d woken up on Christmas morning to find cash by your pillow instead of the toy you’d asked for, wouldn’t you have been disappointed? Ah—maybe you would’ve been happy!?
The essence of a present is the thought behind it. Cash may smell like it just came off the printing press, but it’s hard to put any sentiment into it. I’m not Christian or anything, but it is still a “Christmas present,” after all.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
Don’t ask about his budget.
If he offers a good allowance, don’t let him go.
Even 5 is more than enough—be grateful.
Don’t get greedy; just mention the names of the items you want.
You expect to receive things far too much.
Please be humble.
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I think he’d buy it whether it cost ¥300,000 or ¥900,000…
But if he has another favorite who’s in the “black class,” and he tells you that a ¥30,000 appliance is enough…
Would you naturally gravitate toward that option, or would giving a more expensive gift make him feel even more loved?
I suppose it depends on you—or maybe on your luck…
Still, if you’re in a relationship where you can’t simply say what you want, be very careful, and take things slowly…
—Paper Airplane
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I like taking a certain amount of risk to get what I want, so in this case, I’d say something like:
“I don’t need a present. I already receive more than enough as it is. Just knowing you thought of me would make me happy. More than anything, I’d be happy if we could spend a long time together.”
I’d never say there was something I absolutely wanted.
Then, as a result, either I get something more expensive than expected or I get cash. In other words, it’s a strategy to amplify the other person’s desire to give.
Isn’t this what you’d call psychological warfare?
Just my gut feeling, but psychological games without taking any risks are pointless and simply exhausting.
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