He asked me to only see him, so I did. I also adjusted my schedule almost every time and changed my appearance to what he said he liked… Since we met through the club, I wanted to value our relationship and felt I had done everything I could, but he said he was worried about the spread of COVID-19, and now we haven’t seen each other for over a month. I feel like I’m being kept on hold.
Honestly, once he says it’s because of COVID, there doesn’t seem to be anything I can do. Apart from the things I mentioned above, is there anything else I can do for him?
I’m sad that he didn’t do anything for my birthday, and I’m also struggling financially… I’d really appreciate any advice.
I’m Meg, one of the female members.
That’s really awful… Anyone would feel hurt after being treated that way.
If he genuinely intended to treat you well, he wouldn’t leave you hanging for an entire month, would he?
I hope you’ll take everyone’s advice into consideration.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
If both parties want the same thing, COVID doesn’t have to be an issue. You can avoid it by taking proper precautions.
It’s important to look carefully at what really matters...
I think it’s best to explain your current situation. If that doesn’t work, move on to the next person...
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
You agreed to see only him because that’s what he asked, but if he’s now saying he can’t meet because of COVID, then I think he’s the one breaking the promise.
If this was essentially an exclusive arrangement, it would normally be expected that he continue paying you a monthly allowance even when you can’t meet.
Thinking about it that way, I don’t think he values you very much.
You need to change the current situation first, so I suggest re-registering and asking the staff to hide your profile from him so he can’t see it, then going on dates with other men.
And from now on, even if a man asks you to see only him, I think you’re better off discreetly continuing relationships with multiple men.
Men who ask you to see only them seem to be under some kind of misunderstanding.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Since you’re only seeing her, why not explain that things are financially difficult for you and suggest hotel dates only?
If she still says it’s because of COVID, there’s a good chance she’s simply losing interest in you.
You should start looking for someone else.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is different from a typical romantic relationship, because it’s normal for the other person to have a wife, children, or someone else they value more than you.
Even if you do everything your papa (a male supporter) asks and devote yourself to him, you’ll only end up feeling empty. That’s why you need to become stronger. You may like him, but try to create a situation where you also like other papas or have a boyfriend. That way, you can keep some emotional breathing room.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
Why not explain that you’re having financial difficulties and ask to borrow your allowance in advance?
If he intends to continue seeing you, he should be willing to help. Since it’s an advance, your next meeting would simply be free, so it wouldn’t really add to his overall burden.
Besides, if you’re seeing each other one-on-one, I think it’s important to become closer and build a relationship where you can talk openly about anything.
If he’s someone you can’t build that kind of relationship with, there’s no need to limit yourself to him. Start looking for other papas too.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think you have two options: explain your difficult situation to your current partner, as you did in your question, and ask whether he could still give you an allowance even if you can’t meet, or find another papa (a male supporter).
No matter how much you do for someone, it’s important to determine whether they’re the kind of person who will reciprocate your feelings.
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I’m Nana Ayase☆
Everyone says that, right?
I guess they think mentioning COVID means they won’t have to meet in person.
I’m sure some men keep switching between girls while having someone they meet regularly once a week.
Choose carefully, and enjoy meeting someone new after adding more photos to your profile.
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