I asked about being offered 1.5 by men. Thank you, everyone. When a man offered me 1.5, he said he wanted McDonald’s for dinner. Another suggested buying food from the department store basement and eating it on the hotel bed. With someone else, I turned down an adult relationship (intimate), but ended up spending four hours with him at a café, where he kept talking about sexual topics forever, asking things like, “Do you do it by yourself?” That’s why I decided to ask.

I’m Dai, a male member. I suppose the number of male members is increasing and the membership base is broadening. You should give feedback about the 1.5 allowance. That said, some men have money but aren’t particular about food, so they may feel McDonald’s is perfectly fine. You can’t really blame them for that. Buying food from a department store basement and eating it at a hotel isn’t necessarily strange, especially with COVID still around. (I’ve also been using in-room dining more often.) It’s unfortunate that you had to spend four hours at a café listening patiently to him talk about sexual topics. You should give feedback. These days, male members’ ratings can also change based on women’s reviews. The best thing is for men with low ratings to be asked to leave.

I’m Ayase Nana ♡ 1.5… Another new figure has appeared. That’s even less than what you’d get in the adult entertainment industry. Questioner, what were you wearing on the date? Was your dress, skirt, or blouse wrinkled? Would you have looked presentable enough to enter a luxury hotel lounge? I’ve recently been working as a secretary, and I’ve been going to more and more nice places for business and social engagements, so I always wear a suit with a luxurious look. A suit from an ordinary $70 set would embarrass my boss, so I make sure it’s completely wrinkle-free. The same goes for casual clothes, doesn’t it? They look much nicer when they’ve been ironed. If your clothes were neat and clean on the date, then what could it have been? Maybe your makeup was too heavy? If you received an offer from an unreasonable man, please report it to the staff immediately. The other respondents have said this many times already. Let’s put a stop to him before there’s another victim. I look forward to your prompt report.

Maezawa from the executive office here. First of all, offering 15,000 yen is an unbelievably low amount at Universe Club. Since the club doesn’t get involved in free-form relationships, that may be why he thought he could get away with it. That’s also why we have a system for rating men. Please keep sending in negative feedback. 15,000 yen is simply unacceptable. That said, on apps, many women apparently agree to low amounts when the man is in his early 20s or so. But dating clubs are different, and I want everyone to understand that. If everyone keeps submitting negative feedback, men like that will eventually disappear from Universe. > When I turned down an adult relationship with another man, he asked me to spend four hours at a café with him. Once you’ve declined an adult relationship, I would consider the date over. Saying “Please leave four hours open” is different from saying “Please spend four hours having dinner or sitting at a café with me.” Once the initial meal is over, the date arranged through Universe Club has ended. Anything after that is a free-form relationship. Since it’s a free-form relationship, you’re also free to say that you want an allowance of 50,000 yen just to sit at a café and listen to him talk. (If he says he’ll pay the 50,000 yen, that sounds suspicious, so it’s better to receive it upfront.) However, if you simply say “50,000 yen,” the club may receive negative feedback. So as soon as you part ways with the man, send the club a message along the lines of: “I’m sorry if you receive negative feedback about me. He wouldn’t let me leave, so I ended up saying that I would only accompany him to a café after dinner for 50,000 yen, but I didn’t actually want 50,000 yen.” That makes it clear that the man’s behavior was what led to the situation. The trick is to submit your feedback before he does. If you don’t want to go that far, and it’s still during the club’s business hours, call the club once the meal is over and say something like: “It’s been two hours, and even though I declined an adult relationship, I’m not in a position to leave. Is it okay for me to go home? He keeps talking about sexual things, and it’s becoming distressing.” I’m curious, though—why do you keep ending up with such strange men? Does your profile say things like “I prefer younger men,” “Men up to their 30s only,” or “I’m looking for an emotional connection”? It’s a bit of a mystery.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. If that happens often, I think it’s perfectly fine to turn down offers from women in their 20s or early 30s. Why? Well, things may be different now, but when we were in our 20s or around 30, men who could join a club were invited for free and could meet women who called themselves beautiful and had paid hefty entrance fees and membership dues to come looking for them. So I suppose it’s only natural that younger women’s sense of money differs from what we’re used to in clubs or papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

I’m Fuu, a column writer. I suppose people are coming in from dating sites and matching apps now that things have become more casual. At that amount, an adult relationship (intimate) would be difficult here, so I think they’ll naturally be weeded out. Still, I feel sorry for the person who received that offer. I hope the questioner gets an offer from an ideal supporter.

I’m Kazu, a male member. If something feels completely unacceptable, I think it’s best to give the club straightforward feedback. If the feedback from men who joined through the campaign is consistently negative, the club will probably reconsider the campaign. I’ve also gone to a department store food hall, bought dinner, and eaten it in a hotel room with women several times. Everyone has different values, so I think it’s important to clearly express what you want in each situation. That said, as you mentioned, it can be disappointing when your views are completely different from those of your date. I also think it’s better to let go of any fixed ideas about what relationships through a dating club are supposed to be or should be.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Hmm... I feel like things have gotten a little out of hand here...

I’m in Seattle. There are some strange people out there, so remember that it’s okay to say no at a dating club. Make sure to ask for at least 0.5 before you leave.