I can’t stand living under my parents’ control anymore. I’m turning 25 this year.
I sleep in the same room as my father and mother because our house is practically a hoarder’s house. My father only works part-time, has no money, and spends all day either online or sleeping.
My parents manage all the money I use for my everyday expenses, and my mother meticulously asks me what I spent it on.
If I try to dodge the question, she keeps pressing me. It seems like she wants to control every aspect of my life.
If I simply go out at night to have some fun, they pry into it, and my father and I end up talking about what a promiscuous woman I am.
Objectively speaking, is my family strange?
I’m Meg, a female member.
If becoming independent anytime soon doesn’t seem realistic, start by tidying up your home.
You’ll see more than just the floor.
Don’t give up.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Since every household is different, there’s no single “right” way things should be.
If everyone told you it wasn’t strange, would you think, “Oh, I guess this is normal for other people too”?
You’ve already reached your own conclusion, haven’t you?
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I’m Flagmaker, a columnist.
When I tell other people about my family—or, more specifically, stories about my terrifying wife—they sometimes give me a strange look and say, “How are you still married? I’d leave her.”
But that doesn’t help me at all. I’m not planning to get divorced, after all.
So if the questioner wants to make things work with their family, objectivity and general opinions don’t really matter. Unfortunately, all they can do is adapt to their current situation.
If they truly hate it and want to escape, rather than thinking, “They’re family, but this is objectively strange, so I should leave,” I feel it would be better to run away and keep your distance as if you were prepared to cut ties with your parents.
Once you become an adult, you often have to choose one thing and give up another. Sadly, that’s just the reality of having more choices.
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This is Ayase Nana♡
Are you in elementary school or something…? (sweat)
You’re 25, right? Why not move out and live on your own?
Open a bank account without telling them,
and have your work income deposited there.
Are you really going to let your parents leech money off you for decades to come and live like that?
The best years of your life are already starting to pass you by.
So you’re unhappy… and? What exactly do you want to do?
Take that first step and become happy.
Looking at it objectively, you’re strange too.
If you don’t act soon, you’ll stay stuck in this quagmire forever.
I don’t think there’s such a thing as a normal family,
but your family relies far too much on each individual member to handle things for them.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well.
Every family is different, so if you don’t like the situation, I think you should live on your own.
You’re an adult, so you should be able to handle everything by yourself.
Good luck.
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