I’m Dai, a male member.
The women whose sense of money gets distorted are the ones who receive large allowances without any real purpose for them.
When I was in high school, I happily ate standing soba that cost 300 yen a bowl. Now, I don’t mind spending about ten times that amount when I eat out. My sense of money has changed.
If you can genuinely use the allowance only to repay your student loans or put it toward savings for your future, then I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) can be an option.
A lot of people also let their youth get consumed by smartphones and games, don’t they…?
The idea that you’ll no longer be able to date or marry someone your own age applies when you become fixated on older men. Many women try papa-katsu and still realize they prefer men their own age over older men.
You’re the one carrying a large amount of student debt, so I don’t think this is really something that should be decided based on whether your friends found out.
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
I think the person asking should decide for themselves which option feels right.
One of my regular favorite girls registered for papa-katsu while she was a student, then eventually left and got a stable day job. She’s now married.
As I’ve written in my columns, at the club she was a C-type, had an extra star, and received positive comments from the club, so she was probably getting a fairly generous allowance. While continuing papa-katsu, she also worked part-time at a sexy cabaret club and became the number-one girl there, despite being a part-timer. She was cute, had a great figure, and a lovely personality. She mainly used the money for living expenses, tuition, orthodontic treatment, beauty treatments, a car, travel, and so on.
Without letting her sense of money get distorted, she stopped registering with the papa-katsu club, quit the sexy cabaret club, got a regular daytime job, and eventually got married.
When she started working a daytime job, she changed her phone and created a new LINE account, cleanly settling all her previous relationships. She approached everything brightly, humorously, and as if she were having fun. Whether you feel your time is being taken from you or choose to enjoy that time is up to you. Her family situation was a little complicated, so she believed in earning her own money and understood its value. That’s why she didn’t lose her sense of balance. I’m not saying everyone has to approve of papa-katsu, but she’s a great example of how you can continue enjoying it without getting hooked on hosts or questionable investments, being swept along by others, and while maintaining self-control.
Finally, a little bragging: she told me she had narrowed it down to her husband and me, and we’ve stayed in touch ever since. She probably still keeps a few papas around, though (lol). She’s a pro at this sort of thing, so she’s incredibly good at making people happy, both through conversation and in bed (just bragging).
P.S. Compared with apps, Universal has fewer risks, so if you’re going to continue and you’re confident in your looks, I’d love to welcome you to Universal!
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here, too.
> Since I’m a member of the app, not this club...
It seems like you could simply quit the app and register with Universe Club.
That way, you could tell your friends you’ve stopped doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
You could just continue your papa-katsu through Universe instead.
I’m in Seattle.
Your friend is wrong. Save around 50 million yen through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and rise to a whole different level.
You only live once—what’s fun about living an ordinary life? Besides, marriage is the root of all unhappiness. You don’t need to get married.
I’m Taro, a male member.
How did they find out, I wonder? Was your friend a member too? Or did you accidentally give yourself away?
If you feel you need it or want to do it, there’s no reason to stop. If it’s something other people would criticize you for, just be more careful not to let it get out.
Isn’t it really that simple?
I’m Aya, a female member.
I think your friend has a point, too. There are many women who hate the idea of using their femininity to make money. I felt the same way when I was a student, and I even think that’s the majority view.
Your friend is probably part of that majority. From her perspective, your papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) must be genuinely difficult to understand. Since you see the world differently, I think your options are either to accept that and move on, or take your friend’s advice and quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think this is something you should decide for yourself rather than asking others. Whether your sense of money gets distorted depends on the individual, and whether you end up being exploited depends on the kind of relationship you have. Whether you date or marry someone your own age is also entirely up to you.
