Are there many women at this club who have no interest in beauty treatments, spas, cosmetic surgery, or designer brands, and only signed up because they genuinely had no choice due to financial difficulties with living expenses or tuition?
In an extreme example, I find young women appealing who are desperately working as newspaper scholarship students to pay their tuition, but whose overwork has started affecting their studies, so they reluctantly enter this world because they feel they have no other choice... Would such serious, hardworking girls even consider signing up with a dating club in the first place? ^^
I like women who are modest in both personality and appearance, but are there very few women like that because they get rejected during the interview for being too plain?
If I’m going to support someone financially, I’d rather help a woman who’s genuinely struggling than one who spends the money on beauty treatments or designer brands...
I’m Meg, one of the female members.
The other day, my vacuum cleaner broke, so I splurged on a ¥20,000 one! *Cue the proud flex.*
While I was at it, I looked at washing machines too—and nearly fell over when I saw some costing around ¥150,000…
Just letting you know there are people like me here too.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
Questioner, your preferred type is pretty rare, haha. I also agree that I like a neat, refined look, but I don’t think I’d go quite that far. I didn’t see anything mentioned about appearance—would a girl be okay even if she isn’t cute, as long as she has a simple, modest look?
I don’t think you can tell someone’s personality from their appearance alone, so I hope you’ll join the club. There are modest, understated girls who probably don’t receive many offers, so please make lots of offers and help those who are struggling. Some girls even write in their profiles that repaying their student loans or making ends meet is difficult. A papa who supports them like a long-lost benefactor—wonderful!
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
There are people who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to cover their living expenses, even if they’re not students.
Some do it to support their children’s dreams, too…
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Unfortunately, women like that don’t come to dating clubs. That said, there are plenty of serious, sincere women. I do think some of them don’t simply see men as money.
I consider myself an ordinary woman who takes both her studies and work seriously. I’m the kind of person who’s unusually earnest and prone to depression—a pretty typical Japanese personality, you could say. So, to enter the world of dating clubs, I had to overcome a hurdle about as high as the one involved in working in the adult entertainment industry. I don’t think I could have registered with a dating club unless I already had a somewhat messed-up state of mind. If “slightly broken but still serious” women are acceptable, then I believe there are probably quite a few of them.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here. I’ll answer this one too.
> Are there really not many women who register simply because they’re struggling with living expenses, tuition, and so on, and have no other choice?
So you want to meet a woman who’s vulnerable and can be manipulated into doing whatever you say—essentially, a slave.
It’s surprising that someone would think that way even before joining a club.
I don’t know whether there are many or few, but since we have a Type A dating category, I imagine there are more than at other dating clubs.
If you want to help people in need, why not donate to an organization that supports them?
Though I suppose donating wouldn’t serve your purpose, since what you really want is to take advantage of their vulnerability.
I’m starting to feel like men who think that way shouldn’t join at all.
Also, it’s difficult to define how far “living expenses” extends.
You say you don’t want her spending the money on beauty treatments, but going to a hair salon is part of living expenses, isn’t it?
Yet you don’t want her using it for salon fees?
What about makeup? You can live without wearing makeup, so should she not spend it on that either?
If you say, “I never said that—makeup and hair salons are fine,” then which makeup brands are acceptable, and which ones aren’t?
And with hair salons, which salons are okay and which aren’t?
What about rent?
How much is acceptable, and how much is too much?
How large can her refrigerator be?
Is a TV really necessary for daily life?
What about air conditioning?
The more you think about it, the more it seems that everyone has a different idea of what counts as living expenses.
Is she not allowed to go drinking with friends?
Is she not allowed to go out and have fun?
Would you only want to support someone who stays at home all the time?
Even among people who are genuinely struggling, there are all kinds of situations.
In the first place, instead of worrying about all these things, wouldn’t it be better to simply date a woman you like?
Keeping it that simple seems best to me.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
If you join as a black-tier member and tell your coordinator what you’re looking for, they can find someone for you. I’m sure there are women like that.
That said, whether you’re actually compatible with one of those women is another matter.
Still, there’s something about this line that sets off alarm bells: “I’m attracted to young women who are like, ‘I don’t really want to do this, but I have no choice—so I ended up in this world…’”
You can find that appealing if you want, but please treat her like a person and take care of her heart and body.
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I’m Hikōki, a male member.
> Are there many women who aren’t interested in beauty treatments, spas, cosmetic surgery, or designer brands, and who join simply because they’re struggling with living expenses, tuition, or the like?
There are probably about as many as in the general population. You just need to date someone like that.
Most women likely work up the courage and make a firm decision before joining, so rather than overthinking things, I think it’s best to join first and decide afterward whether it’s right for you.
Whether it’s through a club or somewhere else, you’re bound to find someone who suits you. More importantly, that person also needs to feel the same way about you, so I think it’s best to make a decision and take action without hesitating.
Both men and women dislike having conditions added later or being given conditions upfront.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It’s hard to draw the line between luxury and necessity, or to define what level of hardship counts as “really struggling,” but there are many women who simply want some extra money to help with living expenses.
Personally, I find it off-putting—and it feels like power harassment, sexual harassment, and emotional abuse—to use an allowance to make a woman spend time with me when she genuinely doesn’t want to. The fact that I’m able to enjoy being active at the club suggests to me that women who truly hate it are in the minority. That said, when you look at what “really struggling” means from the other side, it can be quite cruel.
There are also women who live frugally.
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Based on the questioner’s preferences, a Type A woman might be a good fit. It may be worth asking the club to find you a frugal Type A woman.
However, I feel that frugal Type A women are fairly uncommon.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Leaving aside plastic surgery and designer brands, don’t most women have at least some interest in beauty and cosmetics?
By the way, it’s a stereotype to assume that serious, responsible women don’t register with dating clubs in the first place.
There’s no reason a responsible woman shouldn’t enjoy a little luxury. She may not be struggling to get by, but tuition, student loan repayments, and other expenses can leave her with little financial breathing room.
I feel that many women want to enjoy a few small luxuries by going on dates with men from the club.
I don’t think anyone would be rejected at the interview simply for having an overly modest personality or appearance.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Most women seem to use it for things like beauty treatments, savings, or supplementing their living expenses. But when I look closely at the profiles, I get the impression that some are single mothers, while others are students who don’t want to spend too much time working part-time jobs.
I can certainly understand how difficult raising a child on a single income must be for a single mother. And for students who want to focus on their research and other studies, I suppose a transactional relationship could be a reasonable option.
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