The men I meet through this club and on apps very often tell me, “Physical compatibility is important, so I’d like to sleep together once and then decide whether to continue. Of course, I’ll pay you for it.”
Thankfully, the men I’ve met so far often compliment me, saying things like, “You’re exactly my type,” “You’re beautiful,” “It’s fun talking with you,” and “I’m glad I came today.”
Even if they think I’m beautiful, their type, and fun to talk to, does that still not make them want to keep me as a mistress?
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Of course, the ideal is someone who’s attractive, has great intimate chemistry, and whose personality I like. I don’t put it as bluntly as the questioner’s papa does, but intimate chemistry is by far my top priority.
When discussing the terms, some female members say, “I’d like to have as few papas as possible—or just one papa—and see him regularly over the long term.” My inner voice thinks, “I can’t decide that until we’ve been intimate at least once.” I don’t say it out loud, though…
Women feel the same way, don’t they? During the first meeting, they’re judging whether they can continue with that papa and assessing the intimate chemistry in all kinds of ways. It’s best to assume you’re being evaluated from the very first meeting. I’m also careful the first time, observing my partner closely and making sure I don’t do anything they dislike.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I’ve never been told, “Physical compatibility is important, so I want to sleep together once before deciding whether to continue.” I’m surprised some people are that direct. Things would progress more naturally if they didn’t say it outright.
Since the pandemic, more newcomers have entered the scene, and I can’t help feeling that these relationships have become rather transactional.
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I’m Sakamoto, one of the staff members.
I don’t think so. I do think that’s where it ultimately leads, though. Of course, there are exceptions.
Still, I don’t like being told that.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well.
Could it be that, during your first meal together, you said something along the lines of:
“An adult relationship (intimate) would be fine with me, so would you be willing to have a long-term arrangement for an allowance of around ¥___?”
If you brought that up over dinner, I feel it naturally leads to him saying, “Physical compatibility is important, so I’d like to be intimate once and then decide whether to continue.”
If you haven’t said anything like that, it seems unlikely he would simply suggest being intimate once to decide whether to continue.
Also, men with money tend to receive plenty of offers, and I think it’s quite normal for them to take their time confirming various things before deciding which woman they want a long-term arrangement with.
> “If she’s beautiful, my type, and fun to talk to, wouldn’t he want her as a mistress?”
I think everyone is naturally greedy. Most people would want to be with someone who matches their preferences as much as possible.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
Everyone will probably tell you that you’re beautiful, easy to talk to, and that they’re glad they came today, but… don’t take those polite remarks too seriously.
Then there are the rude ones who say, “Since everyone says that, I’d like to get intimate once and then decide.”
Please just tell people like that, “Oh, I think I’ll pass~.”
They’ll get what they want once, then leave you on read and block you. There are better ways to say things.
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I'm Flagmaker, a column writer.
I don't think so. Sexual compatibility comes first, followed by personality compatibility, and looks come last.
That said, I would never say it that bluntly. There's no point, and I think it would only backfire.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I use an exclusive dating club to meet women who are beautiful, my type, fun to talk to, good in bed, and willing to agree on an allowance.
So if the sex isn’t good, I don’t feel inclined to continue seeing her.
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